‘The Secret’ for Kids? Steps to teach your kids the importance of positive thinking and optimism

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It seems that I cannot go to a dinner party without someone bringing up ‘The Secret’ or the Law of Attraction, or as I see it, the simple power of positive thinking and optimism. This got me thinking about how important it is to teach optimism and positive thinking to kids.

In my opinion, the earlier we begin to understand the benefits of being hopeful, optimistic and staying positive, or as the cliché says, finding the silver lining in everything, the better off we will be, making hope seem fun.  So how do you explain this idea to kids and teens.

Step 1: Appropriate Timing Everyone learns best when there is a concrete example in front of them. So, next time something good happens to you or your family member, grasp the opportunity. Lets say you win free tickets to a ballgame on the radio or get a discount on your plane tickets for the next family vacation. While sharing the excitement with your child, turn to them and say, ‘I know why this happened to us!” Of course, your child will wonder why and then you can let them in on the secret…

Step 2: Make it a Secret Ok so they might have heard about ‘The Secret’, but one of the reasons why The Secret was so popular is because it is called ‘The Secret’. Everyone wants to feel like they are doing something no one else knows about. This works especially well with kids. It is great motivation to think positively. Explain to them that you have a secret ritual you do when you want your wishes to come through and it makes you very lucky.

Step 3: Use Simple and Enticing Words Using words like wishes, dreams, luck and magic, work well with kids and tend to stick. If you explain that whenever you are wanting something, you always wish for it out loud and only use ‘yes’ words because your secret listener only hears positive words.

Then explain that you think about it before you go to bed and imagine yourself doing it, just like it is real and believing it is going to happen. Make it appeal to your kids like it is a mini-game where dreams can actually come true.

Step 4: Show Them More Examples Over the next few weeks and days, tell your kids when you are thinking positively. When you are looking for a parking space at the mall, say “I am doing my secret now to find us the best parking spot there is, I can see our spot now, imagine it with me!” My dad actually used to (and still does) do this with us by saying ‘ok, where is our Van Petten family parking space?’ And I swear, whenever I drive with my dad we are sure to find the ‘Van Petten Family Parking Space’ in record time.

Step 5: Proceed with Caution Now, it is important for your kids to realize that this does not work with everything, or immediately. So explain this aspect of the concept and that being positive is half of the battle. Tell them it is also important to work at your wishes. You cannot visualize your perfect parking place, but stop looking around, you have to keep searching for it until you find it. The best lesson is to teach your kids that with hard work and positive thinking, their dreams will come true.

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5 Responses to “‘The Secret’ for Kids? Steps to teach your kids the importance of positive thinking and optimism”

  1. Mark
    March 15, 2009 at 7:01 am #

    Hi, I think this article on teaching children all about the Secret is great. One of the things I’ve found is that they do pick the concepts of The Secret up very well if they are in the right format. My 9 year old enjoys reading books and this eBook has helped her learn how to apply the Secret in her life.
    Remember, feeling good is the best thing!

  2. Gilda Lappe
    April 11, 2009 at 10:36 am #

    I remember having books, workbooks and journals on visualization, positive thinking, and many of the Louise Hay books way before “The Secret”. One day, as I was organizing my book shelf with all the books on those subjects I even thought (with the humorous part of my brain):
    ‘I could have written The Secret’. Many years ago I used to talk to everybody that would listen about writing or drawing their wishes as if they already happened.
    A very, very famous actress that I know (since) way before fame and fortune came to her life (including an Oscar nomination!) said in a Press Conference that I thought her all about visualizing and a ‘formula’ that, at that time, was NOT called laws of attraction but it was basically the same principles.
    I wish that EVERYTHING I was preaching I would have applied in my life…(those that I did came true, actually!) Now-a-days,when I try to talk to my teenager daughter about those subjects of believing, visualizing, sending your positive thoughts to the Universe, she says to me:’What? Do you think you are Oprah?’ or she rolls her eyes as she tells her friends: ‘now she is going to talk like ‘The Secret’.” Of course I wish I could instill all those priceless lessons and that she wouldn’t see it as ‘mom is trying to preach as Oprah” but that she could cultivate the positive drive in every part of her life.
    I hope that she could entice the good, healthy, positive that she is capable of doing.
    I would love to inspire and incite her to follow her dreams, to pursue reaching her potential…but…she is a TEENAGER and I am her MOTHER…not Oprah!!

  3. Gilda Lappe
    April 11, 2009 at 10:46 am #

    My ‘spelling corrector’ wrote Thought instead of TAUGHT about the “teaching visualization” to the “famous actress”…Sorry!!! (Gilda)

  4. Vanessa Van Petten
    April 18, 2009 at 12:13 pm #

    Hi Gilda

    Thanks so much for your thoughts

    and of course, thanks for reading!


  5. aiteng
    July 12, 2009 at 8:07 pm #

    the secret is in your hand now…use it !

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