Comments on: 5 Strategies to Manage your Family’s Chores—permanently! http://www.radicalparenting.com/2007/10/29/5-strategies-to-manage-your-family%e2%80%99s-chores%e2%80%94permanently/ Parenting From The Kids Perspective Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:51:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Floor Steam Cleaner http://www.radicalparenting.com/2007/10/29/5-strategies-to-manage-your-family%e2%80%99s-chores%e2%80%94permanently/comment-page-1/#comment-28310 Floor Steam Cleaner Sat, 06 Nov 2010 21:46:44 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2007/10/29/5-strategies-to-manage-your-family%e2%80%99s-chores%e2%80%94permanently/#comment-28310 The five points laid out above can really be effective when it comes to managing chores. However, as with everything else in life, it's not the rules by themselves that make difference. It's the discipline and the strength to stick with the rules that will bring positive results. That's where people rarely succeed. The five points laid out above can really be effective when it comes to managing chores. However, as with everything else in life, it’s not the rules by themselves that make difference. It’s the discipline and the strength to stick with the rules that will bring positive results. That’s where people rarely succeed.

]]> By: Vanessa Van Petten http://www.radicalparenting.com/2007/10/29/5-strategies-to-manage-your-family%e2%80%99s-chores%e2%80%94permanently/comment-page-1/#comment-26366 Vanessa Van Petten Mon, 21 Jun 2010 16:23:11 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2007/10/29/5-strategies-to-manage-your-family%e2%80%99s-chores%e2%80%94permanently/#comment-26366 HI Barb, Thanks for this addition. I think you are right it is not always a good thing. In some families they have found this work for them. I like to put all of the options out there and have people decide what is best for their family. Thank you for adding your story to benefit others. Vanessa HI Barb,

Thanks for this addition. I think you are right it is not always a good thing. In some families they have found this work for them. I like to put all of the options out there and have people decide what is best for their family. Thank you for adding your story to benefit others.

Vanessa

]]> By: Barb Desmarais http://www.radicalparenting.com/2007/10/29/5-strategies-to-manage-your-family%e2%80%99s-chores%e2%80%94permanently/comment-page-1/#comment-26356 Barb Desmarais Sat, 19 Jun 2010 18:13:15 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2007/10/29/5-strategies-to-manage-your-family%e2%80%99s-chores%e2%80%94permanently/#comment-26356 Vanessa, I have to respectfully disagree with your suggestion to pay kids for doing chores. I remember about 20 years ago listening to Barbara Coloroso giving a talk to parents and someone asked about allowance. She asked the audience: "How many of you got paid to do the dishes tonight?" Her point was, in a family everyone does their share and no one gets paid for doing things that are expected. It made perfect sense to me. We want kids to contribute around the house simply because it's the right thing to do when we live in any kind of community. I've raised 4 kids and when the two older ones were young, they were paid for doing chores. As they got older, when they were asked to do something, they wanted to know how much they'd be paid. Kids tend to develop a "What's in it for me?" attitude when they get used to being paid for doing chores. When the younger ones were growing up, I learned effective ways to get them to help around the house but they didn't get paid for any of it unless it was something I'd pay someone else. They got an allowance to learn how to manage money. It wasn't a lot so once they tured 16 they were very motivated to get jobs because they soon learned the money they got from us didn't go very far. Vanessa, I have to respectfully disagree with your suggestion to pay kids for doing chores. I remember about 20 years ago listening to Barbara Coloroso giving a talk to parents and someone asked about allowance. She asked the audience: “How many of you got paid to do the dishes tonight?” Her point was, in a family everyone does their share and no one gets paid for doing things that are expected. It made perfect sense to me. We want kids to contribute around the house simply because it’s the right thing to do when we live in any kind of community. I’ve raised 4 kids and when the two older ones were young, they were paid for doing chores. As they got older, when they were asked to do something, they wanted to know how much they’d be paid. Kids tend to develop a “What’s in it for me?” attitude when they get used to being paid for doing chores. When the younger ones were growing up, I learned effective ways to get them to help around the house but they didn’t get paid for any of it unless it was something I’d pay someone else. They got an allowance to learn how to manage money. It wasn’t a lot so once they tured 16 they were very motivated to get jobs because they soon learned the money they got from us didn’t go very far.

]]> By: Britax Boulevard CS http://www.radicalparenting.com/2007/10/29/5-strategies-to-manage-your-family%e2%80%99s-chores%e2%80%94permanently/comment-page-1/#comment-2726 Britax Boulevard CS Tue, 19 May 2009 06:39:12 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2007/10/29/5-strategies-to-manage-your-family%e2%80%99s-chores%e2%80%94permanently/#comment-2726 I think the best way to do all chores is assigning each member of the family a certain chore so that everyone will be busy doing their assigned task. In this way, one will never worry if a certain task is not accomplished because that task is assigned already. Giving rewards will be a good way to motivate someone. I think the best way to do all chores is assigning each member of the family a certain chore so that everyone will be busy doing their assigned task. In this way, one will never worry if a certain task is not accomplished because that task is assigned already. Giving rewards will be a good way to motivate someone.

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