Planning activities is great for your teens.
Here are 10 suggestions for activities parents can create/provide/encourage, so teens have less opportunity to come up with their own…
Ok this is three in one, but teens usually love doing these kinds of activities, they can be co-ed and not that much money for a few hours of amusement (and physical activity).
2. Comedy Clubs:
There are a lot of improv clubs, comedy clubs or even coffee shops that have stand-up that allow all ages. This can be a really fun weekend night for teens. You could also ask in advance to use a local coffee shop for the teens to do their own stand-up one night and they will all buy coffee and bring friends as an incentive to the owner.
3. Plan a Themed Party:
So this sounds lame, but I do not mean plan a themed party in the 4th grade sense, I mean, if you are willing to open up your house have a party that will appeal to teens: an 80’s movie marathon and make dinner, fondue, pop-culture trivia night, pool party and BBQ, murder mystery…
4. Dinner and a Show:
There are lots of places that offer dinner and then some sort of entertainment, we used to go to a place that was Mexican food and then a salsa class and then a salsa band which was all ages or you can go to a place like Medieval times where they have food and then a joust show.
5. Celebrate a Holiday (no matter how minor):
Luckily, my mom had lots of patience and loved to cook, we often had Valentines parties (for my sisters and our friends and I) Superbowl parties (for my brother and his friends) or Halloween Parties (co-ed), where she would come up with games and serve us lots of food, it definitely kept us away from ‘parents-are-away-for-the-weekend’ parties that were going on.
We had a friend who’s parents had tons of board games, a ping pong table, air-hockey table, pinball machine and a foosball table. This was AWESOME, it was great when it was just girls, just boys, but also a great way to spend time with the opposite sex when they came over. You might think of getting one of these or some videogame systems like a Wii with lots of controllers. My brother and his friends (I thought they were losers at the time, but it probably kept them out of trouble) all had their own ‘laser-guns’ and would wear vests and little blinking things and run around the neighborhood or backyards in their own version of outdoor lasertag.
7. Plan a Tournament:
For boys, host a videogame tournament at your house (usually just includes lots of your patience and lots of food) or, if you have the space or live near a park, have a sports day. A sports day can be as simple as grabbing a few softball bats from HomerunMonkey and hitting the field. For girls, I would also put spa party/sleepover, chocolate making party and craft or jewelry-making party under this category. Notice how I use the term ‘party’ loosely, in my opinion, the more you can make it feel like everyone is showing up for something special and that it is being planned for them, the more distracting and fun it can be.
8. Attend an event:
Go to free outdoor concerts, big music festivals or sports games.
9. House Hop:
This one takes lots of coordination, but works really well if you do end up doing a parent-event-planning-commitee (above). Since we get bored really easily, have four different houses get together and host a different part of the night (preferably if they are in walking or short driving distance) one house does snacks and outdoor activities, then someone else has BBQ dinner, someone else does game night and then end at dessert.
10. Drop Off at a Distant Location:
I could not think of a better name for this category, but there are lots of game centers, go-carting, water parks, theme parks at night where you can drop a bunch of teens off and maybe hang-out in the area and have a date night while they play.
*Note 1: Your teens need to thank you and uphold their part of the bargain. Planning these kinds of events are a lot of work for you and they do not need to come freely. Let your teen know that you want to plan some fun activities, but they need to get A’s this semester/do all of the clean-up before and after/help you cook/ drive your sister to ballet class etc.
*Note 2: Lay Down the Rules. The whole point of planning activities is to keep them out of trouble, make sure your kid and their friends know that there is no drinking, sneaking away or drugs at these events. My parents used to collect everyone’s keys at the beginning of the night and make everyone say hello and goodbye to make sure they were in an ‘ok’ state before they left.
*Note 3: Many of these activities involve you planning them and then sort of, well, leaving them. I know, I know this seems rough, but the whole point is to let teens feel like they are having fun and still having their independence so they do not need to get it by rebelling. My parents were always, always home, but would go upstairs or stay in another room and just come down if it got too loud, but would NOT repeatedly check on us, because they trusted us, and this in turn, made us feel more responsible so we made sure we did not, nor did any of our friends break the rules.
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