Comments on: Are Girls Too Image Conscious? http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/ Parenting From The Kids Perspective Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:51:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: chickencheese http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-28384 chickencheese Fri, 12 Nov 2010 18:58:47 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-28384 I'm 13, and I only recently became really interested in fashion. I never wear makeup, I don't want to and we're not allowed it at school anyway. I've read a lot about adults who are worried about children and teens being under pressure to look like celebrities, have boyfriends etc. I don't think it's something to worry about- sure there are teens who do silly things- get drunk, film each other doing things they shouldn't etc, but there have always been people like that, surely. Me and friends care about how we look; my friend's ten-year old sister has a boyfriend. Most adults probably think it's silly, but we're all happy with how we are, and we're not harming anybody. We all know the dangers of drugs, alcohol, trying to look like celebrities- that's what PSHEE lessons are for! Adults are worried about us being influenced by TV and internet- well, all I've seen is people doing silly things and facing the consequences; I found out what these things were, and found out they weren't good! We are clever enough to say no to things we aren't happy doing, and we know the dangers of doing silly things. Adults only need to worry about specific people who CHOOSE to do these things. I’m 13, and I only recently became really interested in fashion. I never wear makeup, I don’t want to and we’re not allowed it at school anyway. I’ve read a lot about adults who are worried about children and teens being under pressure to look like celebrities, have boyfriends etc. I don’t think it’s something to worry about- sure there are teens who do silly things- get drunk, film each other doing things they shouldn’t etc, but there have always been people like that, surely. Me and friends care about how we look; my friend’s ten-year old sister has a boyfriend. Most adults probably think it’s silly, but we’re all happy with how we are, and we’re not harming anybody. We all know the dangers of drugs, alcohol, trying to look like celebrities- that’s what PSHEE lessons are for! Adults are worried about us being influenced by TV and internet- well, all I’ve seen is people doing silly things and facing the consequences; I found out what these things were, and found out they weren’t good!

We are clever enough to say no to things we aren’t happy doing, and we know the dangers of doing silly things. Adults only need to worry about specific people who CHOOSE to do these things.

]]> By: virtual worlds for kids http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-2153 virtual worlds for kids Tue, 14 Apr 2009 11:21:18 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-2153 this kind of problem happens to me once when i was a kid.. But i think as a kid, you can always say no if you think that it doesnt suits you well. That's what happened to me, so I stick with my own style where i feel more comfortable with it. All I need to do just give a good reason to the parents.. this kind of problem happens to me once when i was a kid.. But i think as a kid, you can always say no if you think that it doesnt suits you well. That’s what happened to me, so I stick with my own style where i feel more comfortable with it. All I need to do just give a good reason to the parents..

]]> By: Jolene http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-375 Jolene Tue, 13 May 2008 16:45:52 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-375 My girls were treated to a day at Sweet and Sassy recently, and while one part of me fears that it may encourage emphasis on outward beauty and glamour, I can see where it can be a good thing too. Like someone else mentioned, you need to look at it as playing "dress-up." My 12 & 10 year olds were thrilled with the whole experience (beginning with being picked up in a hot pink limo) -- but the key is that it was an out of the ordinary experience. Also, I think it's important to note that SAS also incorporates workshops on skin care, nutrition, self-esteem, manners, etc into their programs. I am much more concerned about the kids who are constantly playing virtual reality games that are violent and/or sexual in nature. These are the kids who will be a harm to society later, not the ones who are applying lip gloss. My girls were treated to a day at Sweet and Sassy recently, and while one part of me fears that it may encourage emphasis on outward beauty and glamour, I can see where it can be a good thing too. Like someone else mentioned, you need to look at it as playing “dress-up.” My 12 & 10 year olds were thrilled with the whole experience (beginning with being picked up in a hot pink limo) — but the key is that it was an out of the ordinary experience. Also, I think it’s important to note that SAS also incorporates workshops on skin care, nutrition, self-esteem, manners, etc into their programs. I am much more concerned about the kids who are constantly playing virtual reality games that are violent and/or sexual in nature. These are the kids who will be a harm to society later, not the ones who are applying lip gloss.

]]> By: Vanessa http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-379 Vanessa Mon, 28 Apr 2008 18:34:47 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-379 ew. I really really do not like snotty people at all. I also think it is crazy to list prices at all on the website if it is a 'franchise and everyone charges what they want' do not give them your business and do an at home spa day instead. ew. I really really do not like snotty people at all. I also think it is crazy to list prices at all on the website if it is a ‘franchise and everyone charges what they want’ do not give them your business and do an at home spa day instead.

]]> By: Vicki http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-380 Vicki Mon, 28 Apr 2008 17:14:42 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-380 I'm a parent of a young girl who is about to have a birthday. I looked into having a birthday party at Sweet and Sassy. First of all the price is outrageous! At least for the one in Omaha. What really turned me off was that I talked with a girl on the phone that was on the snotty side. I mentioned that her manager should know that they are posting one price on the internet and giving out another price over the phone. She stated that she was the manager and that it was a franchise and they all charged what they wanted to. It wasn't so much her answer as her tone and snottiness. It brought back memories of when I was a teenager and some of the snotty girls from back then. It was a wake up call and I wouldn't have a Birthday party there for my daughter even if someone offered to pay for it. I’m a parent of a young girl who is about to have a birthday. I looked into having a birthday party at Sweet and Sassy. First of all the price is outrageous! At least for the one in Omaha. What really turned me off was that I talked with a girl on the phone that was on the snotty side. I mentioned that her manager should know that they are posting one price on the internet and giving out another price over the phone. She stated that she was the manager and that it was a franchise and they all charged what they wanted to. It wasn’t so much her answer as her tone and snottiness. It brought back memories of when I was a teenager and some of the snotty girls from back then. It was a wake up call and I wouldn’t have a Birthday party there for my daughter even if someone offered to pay for it.

]]> By: Maggie http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-377 Maggie Fri, 29 Feb 2008 23:48:11 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-377 oh, I know! mine too. I nearly died when she asked to 'highlights' her hair at 10. I don't even think she realized it wasn't done with a highlighter marker. Unfortunately, they think all of the grown up stuff is cool. I did to, at that age, but somehow it all seemed less threatening. -Maggie oh, I know! mine too. I nearly died when she asked to ‘highlights’ her hair at 10. I don’t even think she realized it wasn’t done with a highlighter marker. Unfortunately, they think all of the grown up stuff is cool. I did to, at that age, but somehow it all seemed less threatening.
-Maggie

]]> By: Reach For The Stars http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-374 Reach For The Stars Fri, 29 Feb 2008 23:45:20 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-374 I just really feel like kids are trying to grow up to fast these days. My 8 year old wants to wear makeup, wants name brands, wants cell phones, ipods, computers and all this grown up stuff. I just want her to be a little girl. I just really feel like kids are trying to grow up to fast these days. My 8 year old wants to wear makeup, wants name brands, wants cell phones, ipods, computers and all this grown up stuff. I just want her to be a little girl.

]]> By: Vanessa http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-378 Vanessa Fri, 29 Feb 2008 05:51:03 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-378 absolutely true, some girls have no interest in these kinds of parties at all! absolutely true, some girls have no interest in these kinds of parties at all!

]]> By: Kristen http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-376 Kristen Fri, 29 Feb 2008 02:21:46 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-376 This is almost a family culture issue; some parents would never in a million years do a "sweet and sassy" party, while for others it would be just the thing that their daughters would want most in the world, and fun for them. I think that as long as it stays an "occasion" thing, and doesn't bubble over into an everyday obsession, there's no harm. Kind of like dress up, taken to an extreme for a special occasion. This is almost a family culture issue; some parents would never in a million years do a “sweet and sassy” party, while for others it would be just the thing that their daughters would want most in the world, and fun for them. I think that as long as it stays an “occasion” thing, and doesn’t bubble over into an everyday obsession, there’s no harm. Kind of like dress up, taken to an extreme for a special occasion.

]]> By: Katy http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/comment-page-1/#comment-373 Katy Thu, 28 Feb 2008 23:40:29 +0000 http://vanessavanpetten.com/2008/02/28/are-girls-too-image-conscious/#comment-373 I just can't understand parents who push their little girls to be so conscious of what they wear and how they look! I just can’t understand parents who push their little girls to be so conscious of what they wear and how they look!

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