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By: Carol Shwanda » Blog Archive » DIVORCE FROM A CHILD’S PERSPECTIVE

Thu, 03 Sep 2009 01:42:10 +0000

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By: CasperQ

CasperQ — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 13:31:50 +0000

I have an 11 year old daughter; like your situation, her father and I have been divorced since she was 3. Unlike your situation, I did not remarry but he did.

Can you give me tips on how to help my daughter when her dad complains about his ex (me)? Apparently he’s very, hmmm, vocal. I’ve let her know she doesn’t need to ‘defend’ me to her dad (that used to really bother her). Anything else I can say to help her out? My subtle mentions to her dad tend to fire him up, not quiet him down…

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 20:40:31 +0000

I think it is terrible when people stay together for the kids because the kids subconsciously or consciously pick up on the fact that their parents do not really love each other and then they either mimic it later or get mixed messages…especially if parents are fighting.

By: Jean

Jean — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 15:25:14 +0000

Vanessa – what are your thoughts on “staying together for the kids”? Do the benefits of a two parent home outweigh the cost of thinking that this is the way a relatinsship should be? Is it right for a parent to put their own well-being before the well-being of the children? I know that this is the age of Me Me Me, but shouldn’t sacrifice and sticking it out also be things your children should learn?

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 15:59:55 +0000

hmm, that is a very interesting topic to think about. Domestic violence is very serious and you are right, it often does involve complete misperceptions by the people involved. I will have to think it over and try to post something for you = )

Vanessa

By: ab

ab — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 13:42:41 +0000

what is so different and fresh about your website is that you speak our language, you feel our emotions and understand our issues.

I look forward to reading more of your work. I am interested if you have any experience with domestic violence when the wife is convinced she is in the most ’special relationship’ and that her husband is the ‘prince’ yet in reality he’s quite the opposite to everyone else around ?

thanks

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By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 00:19:03 +0000

Thank you!

You know, there were some really rough times but for the most part I think with everything you have to see the silver lining and try to help other people through it, thanks for your website info! I will check it out

Vanessa