My roommate and I squeezed into two patent leather red mini skirts, grabbed matching fireman helmets, plastic axes and fake water hoses and ran down the dorm stairs toward frat row. It was the first theme party of the semester and we were so excited. Yet, the party sucked. It was a bunch of drunk guys, in a smelly, sweaty rec room where frat brothers use ‘being too drunk’ as an excuse to grope you…and that’s what all the parties end up like.
This week on CNN Headline News, reporters attempted to tackle the subject of the extremely disturbing teen hook-up culture. I wanted to explain my view on this trend for my parent readers as well as correct some misconceptions.
Theme parties are very popular, especially in college, but also in High Schools. These theme parties are an excuse for most girls to get into the cutest (aka sluttiest) outfits they own, and for boys to ‘get in a position of power’—a very apt point made by the CNN reporters. Almost all theme parties usually have to do with the males in a position of power. Here are some examples of theme parties I have attended in college and High School
-Pimps and Hoes
-Billionaires and Bimbos
-CEO’s and Business Hoes
-Bosses and Secretaries
-Professors and School Girls
-Tennis Pros and Country Club Hoes
-Millionaires and Maids
-Cheerleader and Jock
Many parents have heard of ‘rainbow parties’ or other sex parties where girls wear different colored lipstick and give boys oral sex, coloring their penises in a rainbow of colors. Honestly, I am from a big city, I met people from all over the country at camps, trips and at college and I have never heard of rampant sex parties. Not that they might not happen, or that lots of hooking up does not happen at teen parties, but I think it is rare to have teen parties purely dedicated to sex. I have two reasons for this:
1- It is hard enough to pull off a parent free party, but a sex party, a lot of coordination would have to be pulled together to plan it.
2- Teens love to talk and gossip. It is hard enough to keep a regular party underwraps, but a sex party? People will be talking about that in the hallways, in class, on Aim, on the phone…some parent or teacher is bound to overhear and get involved.
3- Teens are a bit shy. I mean, not to be crude, but when talking about this with my guy friends, they mentioned they would never be able to ‘make it through’ a rainbow party. Both girls and boys are shy, have secret crushes, complex and dynamic relationships with their peers and a sex party would throw all of that up in the air. I do not know many people who would have participated (even the horny boys) in High School.
Overall, I think that theme parties are very popular, yet the sex parties are a little overblown. Parents should be more concerned with the hooking up that is going on in their own house, at school and at regular parties behind guest bedroom doors…more posts to come.
Some Articles For You
New York Times Article called “Friends with Benefits” by Benoit Denizet Lewis and interesting read about some of the topics I will be talking about with teens and hooking up casually with friends instead of dating and how ‘far we go.’
MSNBC: Does Hooking Up Hurt Young Women? Does the hook up culture have a negative impact on teen girls? Are they ready to have sex when they start?