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Thank you for your story.

Vanessa

Sorry to be so confessional on your post, here. I’m still in therapy after all these years and I’m part of a number of women’s groups because I have seen how twisted young women become in our hyper-sexualized culture. It’s pathetic that girls actually accept a pain and humilation as a *reward*– which is EXACTLY what the women who willing dress up for Pimp’s and Hos theme parties are doing.

Not sure if, when i was in the middle of all that, i could have put my finger on why this sort of thing bothered me so much. At the time, I remember resenting those girls because they made all women look bad. I don’t know if I realised the far-reaching implications: girls who go to theme and sex parties actively hand over a sense of power over ALL women to men (boys). and since so many women –including myself– strive to obtain a sense of power and autonomy, it’s unfair that we have to live with the power imbalance that benefits only men.

Thanks,
~c

I could not agree more, giving them something to be passionate about and feel confident in, is key.

Thanks for reading!

Vanessa

[...] that this generation is feeling a split of ranks. Yes, there are teens joining pregnancy pacts, going to rainbow parties, and wearing belly tops at the local hookah bar. Yet, there is also a rise of anti-cursing clubs, [...]

[...] that this generation is feeling a split of ranks. Yes, there are teens joining pregnancy pacts, going to rainbow parties, and wearing belly tops at the local hookah bar. Yet, there is also a rise of anti-cursing clubs, [...]

Great comment, I think it really does depend on where you are and I am sad to hear it is more prevalent than I think. I am sure having parents that are always away greatly attributes to the fact that teens have the ability and freedom to have these parties.
thanks for reading and commenting!
Vanessa

Also, I would agree that many teens are shy when it comes to sex and most would not attend or participate in a sex party. However, in my experience (not speaking for others here) sexual activity is the norm among teenagers. I don’t see that many kids in my district or my friends’ districts being shy about sex. Many have come right out and told me rumors I certainly did not want to know, including details of weekly rainbow parties. You’re right that teens gossip, but unfortunately many of them enjoy being the subject of gossip.

I would say that the reality of sex parties varies by community. In mine, it’s a problem, but it may not be in others. I think you’re correct that the main problem is teenage sex in general, not necessarily at sex parties.