Comments on: 6 Unique Strategies for Divorced Families http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/05/15/6-unique-strategies-for-divorced-families/ Parenting From The Kids Perspective Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:51:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Carol Shwanda » WHAT BEING A STEP CHILD IS LIKE http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/05/15/6-unique-strategies-for-divorced-families/comment-page-1/#comment-1526 Carol Shwanda » WHAT BEING A STEP CHILD IS LIKE Tue, 17 Mar 2009 00:00:04 +0000 http://www.vanessavanpetten.com/?p=574#comment-1526 [...] Everyday Tips From A Child of Divorce (http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/05/15/6-unique-strategies-for-divorced-families/ [...]

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]]> By: Vanessa http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/05/15/6-unique-strategies-for-divorced-families/comment-page-1/#comment-799 Vanessa Fri, 16 May 2008 02:28:50 +0000 http://www.vanessavanpetten.com/?p=574#comment-799 Amy Thanks for your addition, I completely agree!~ Vanessa Amy
Thanks for your addition, I completely agree!~

Vanessa

]]> By: 6 Strategies for Divorced Families (+ 1) « The MindOH! Blog http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/05/15/6-unique-strategies-for-divorced-families/comment-page-1/#comment-798 6 Strategies for Divorced Families (+ 1) « The MindOH! Blog Thu, 15 May 2008 12:44:58 +0000 http://www.vanessavanpetten.com/?p=574#comment-798 [...] can turn any kid’s world upside down, and Vanessa Van Petten has a great post up about strategies for divorced families. 1. Define Family I think I freaked out because I thought that I would never have a real family [...]

[...] can turn any kid’s world upside down, and Vanessa Van Petten has a great post up about strategies for divorced families. 1. Define Family I think I freaked out because I thought that I would never have a real family [...]

]]> By: Amy Strecker http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/05/15/6-unique-strategies-for-divorced-families/comment-page-1/#comment-797 Amy Strecker Thu, 15 May 2008 12:32:37 +0000 http://www.vanessavanpetten.com/?p=574#comment-797 As a kid of divorced parents, I think these are great suggestions. I would add to the list having age appropriate conversations with you children about the reason for the divorce as well. This isn't to say air your ex's dirty laundry and place blame -- but kids need to understand the reasons behind this radical shift of lifestyle and that they aren't at fault. Both parents probably need to agree on the reasons being presented to the kid(s). My parents divorced when I was in the 5th grade, and my mom and I have had ongoing conversations about my parents' relationship. I now understand the failures there on a much deeper level than when I was 11, and I'm able to take their experience, learn from it, and hopefully avoid the same mistake in my own life. As a kid of divorced parents, I think these are great suggestions. I would add to the list having age appropriate conversations with you children about the reason for the divorce as well. This isn’t to say air your ex’s dirty laundry and place blame — but kids need to understand the reasons behind this radical shift of lifestyle and that they aren’t at fault. Both parents probably need to agree on the reasons being presented to the kid(s).

My parents divorced when I was in the 5th grade, and my mom and I have had ongoing conversations about my parents’ relationship. I now understand the failures there on a much deeper level than when I was 11, and I’m able to take their experience, learn from it, and hopefully avoid the same mistake in my own life.

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