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I am very passionate about encouraging high self-esteem and feelings of self-worth in young people. This post lists the top findings of what actually makes teens feel good about themselves. On March 25, 2008 OTX and the Intelligence Group Teen Topix Survey asked Teens what makes them happy.
81% of teens say they are happy.
1. Boyfriends and Girlfriends
I was a little surprised to see that the number one thing that makes teens feel good about themselves is the opposite sex. Yet, I think this is the most important point: boyfriends, girlfriends, crushes are a really big deal, and they can make us feel incredibly good about ourselves and incredibly bad about ourselves. Parents need to realize that a break-up or disapointment can literally feel earth shattering…post to come.
I think this is great. Many teens I speak with say that Church and Temple is a great place for them to reconnect, evaluate their values and meet like-minded people!
I mean, duh. But, again, this is important because friends can cause 79% of those feel good feelings, but they can also cause a lot of negative self-esteem if they do not surround themselves with the right people.
HOORAH, thats you! I was happy to see Parents were fourth. See, I told you, we do listen…sometimes, but your support makes us feel good. (Mom you better be reading this!)
Another big awesome juicy hoorah. I loved many of my teachers and they have such a strong influence on how we think and feel. I was always so intrigued by my teachers secret personal lives, and when I found out they were happy and normal and also had trouble sometimes on tests…it made me feel good = )
6. TV Shows They Watch
OK…maybe…I do…feel really good on the inside after I watch an episode of…The Office. Its so funny, so dry and so pointless. There is some benefit here to letting your kids just fart around the house watching TV and doing nothing. It makes us have better self esteem…that might be a push especially with shows like Gossip Girl, but you know what I mean.
Wowser. I was a little surprised. I don’t get it. Is this like “oh seeing Britney Spears have a mental breakdown makes me feel better about myself” or “Mandy Moore just started a social network for girls, and that makes me feel good about myself?” Ideas in the comments?
8. Magazines They Read
I of course read lots of teen magazines for research…and I still like the make-up tips, and I am so very pleased to see so many magazine articles about positive body image and leadership.
9. Advertising They See
I am now on the board of Shaping Youth which looks at the media and marketing efforts of companies to youth to make sure they are Kosher so it is great that most ads are helping body image and self esteem not distorting it!
10. Other Kids in School
I think this just speaks to the importance of the social jungle that is High School. Social dynamics in the locker halls, in class at dances is very important to youth’s perception of themselves.
What makes you happy?
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