Bisexuality is really really ‘in’ right now. As one of my mentees said to me today: “Even if you aren’t bi, it’s still like, really cool, you just pretend to be.”
I called a few of my teen friends and asked them why everyone is coming out:
(Disclaimer: By no means am I encouraging teens to pretend to be bisexual, or diminishing the importance of understanding one’s own true sexual orientation. I am merely trying to report on this trend and give parents some insight into why teens are finding it so appealing)
1. It’s Naughty
Teens love to do things that feel a bit naughty or wrong. Bisexuality is a hot and controversial topic in many households and this gives teens a thrill.
2. It’s Sexy
One of the major reasons teens gave me for either being a bisexual or knowing lots of teen bisexuals was that “boys like it.” Teen girls especially want to turn on other teen boys and many teen boys—and men for that matter think it is a turn on.
3. It’s Forbidden
Many religious organizations, parents, and even cultures forbid or look down upon bisexuality or homosexuality. This makes it a rebellious output for many teens.
4. It’s Intriguing
The ‘typical’ family situation is a man and woman with kids. Having two women or two men attracted to one another is not a societal norm—yet. This makes hooking up with your same sex intriguing, mysterious and interesting and leads many teens to experiment.
5. It’s Attention Grabbing
Everyone wants attention, and teens especially do. Hooking up with your same sex friend at a party is sure to grab the attention of other party goers and get people talking about you. Whether this is in a good or bad way, many teens do not care either way.
6. It’s Cool
Um, Ellen is awesome. Portia is hot. Ugly Betty characters are gay and proud and teens feel that being bisexual is incredibly ‘in’ and what a lot of the celebrities are doing.
7. It’s Tolerant
My generation is all about being open, tolerant and diverse. Hooking up with friends and same sex is the ultimate way of saying: “I am open to being with anyone and showing them love.” A few teens I talked to say they do it because they can and it is a statement to being open about people.
8. It’s a Political Stance
“Being a bisexual is exercising my right as a person with free will.” Yup, quoted from a teen. Many teens are hooking up with each other to make a statement that they believe it is a right to love and be loved by anyone you choose.
I think that being open-minded is critical, but making sure you are being true to your feelings is the most important.
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