What Kind of Kid Do You Have? The 4 Types of Millenial Kids

Recently, I have been speaking at corporations and parent groups about the four types of net-gen kids they might encounter in the workplace.  Since, the presentation has been so well received and powerful, I realized that modern parenting is affecting how kids perform and act in the workplace as well as in High School and at home.

Which type of kid have you seen? Which type of kid do you have? (see links for my more detailed articles on these categories)


Teacup parenting has produced teacup kids.  These are kids who are extremely fragile and nuanced to their own discomforts or problems.  They have an extremely difficult time handling criticism or rejection and tend to fear anything that they might not succeed in.  When they get to jobs, college or difficult high school classes they tend to breakdown or need a huge amount of outside support.


This is me.  These kids were heavily overloaded starting from a very young age.  Dance class, violin class, band, volleyball, SAT’s you name it they were doing it.  They worked so hard from so young, they never really had time to play and as they get older they become more and more burnt-out.  They tend to pick jobs and careers that sound/pay great, but have no idea what their true passions are and are exhausted when they finally get to college, then to a job, then finally to retirement.


My new category.  These are kids who assume ‘it will all work out fine’ and they do not need to put in any work to get anything back.  They do the least amount of work/homework/energy possible and shirk all kinds of discomfort or responsibility by going into their shells.  They tend to be lazy, apathetic and passionless…unless of course it is their video game.


Everyone knows a gen y tyrant.  Parents have been telling them they are special, special, special and their poo smells like roses.  They want the best, and they are going to get it.  They tend to be very aggressive and assume that they are the center of attention and everyone’s mental activity.  They are willing to work a little, but better see big rewards and be congratulated on their hard work.

Of course, you can be a combination of one or two and some kids only have vague symptoms of one category, but are mostly fine (amazing!).  When I speak to parents and kids I bring up these categories and am always surprised to see people raise their hands (especially teens) and say “I just realized, I am a ____” and that is where the healing begins.

Stay tuned to my blog for more to come on how to avoid encouraging these behaviors and how to leverage a teacup vs toasties assets.  If you are interested in participating with me on this research or having me speak to your company/group/school about these topics and how to fix them please see onteenstoday.com/speaker.

6 Responses to “What Kind of Kid Do You Have? The 4 Types of Millenial Kids”

  1. virtual worlds for kids
    April 17, 2009 at 2:11 am #

    Now after i read this post, i’m wondering wat factors that make them become the type of kid they’ve became. i find this article is very intersting, i can easily find these types of kid everywhere but i just never realised it before i read this post..

  2. Kamylia McClain
    October 26, 2009 at 1:31 am #

    I’ve been trying to convince my fiance to have kids for the longest but he felt that I wasn’t ready? This made me feel disrespected and a failure. My body was telling me 3 years ago that I was ready. HOw should I deal with this? What skills do I need to learn to be that perfect “ready” parent? Should I get a new fiance?

  3. Nancy
    November 9, 2009 at 6:31 am #

    That sounds like a hurtful comment but is he right? I personally don’t think we are ever “ready” to be a parent. I am a mother of 5 and I think my number 1 piece of advice is you must be ready to put yourself on the back burner for at least the next 25 years. Kids are a 24 hour 7 day a week job and you can never, ever quit on them. They require so much love, guidance and training it could make your head spin. Did you consider that he isn’t ready? Don’t do it unless you have a devoted, dedicated partner. Motherhood is a tough job and I couldn’t imagine doing it alone. Both parents are so vitally important to raising a healthy child. Before you even concieve the child be sure to do the right thing first and have a committed, stable husband. Best wishes to you.

  4. Jessica@ParentSuccess
    March 5, 2010 at 9:49 am #

    Really interesting post! Shows a lot of insight into the way society is shaping kids now (I’d say I was probably also raised as a part of the Toasties group – band and volleyball all the way!). Thanks for posting!


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