Every morning I wake up and drowsily check through my website statistics (Google Analytics for you other bloggers). This can either be a great way to start the day or an awful day to start the day depending on how many hits I got the day before. Another amazing talent that my web statistics have are the most popular keywords people searched to get to my site. They usually go something like this:
Teens and pot
How to help my teenager
Yet, the other day I was skimming my keywords (I often try to write posts about these keywords because they are the most helpful for my searchers) and saw:
How to be the skinniest prettiest girl in school
Advice for moms
What…what was that? How to be the skinniest prettiest girl in school? Did someone actually type that into Google? Yes, they did and then they came to my post on girls and body image. I decided to ignore it thinking it was maybe the title of a movie. Then a few days later it popped up again and again. Over the next few days I saw different variations of this sentence and then finally….
Best Mom Blogs
Advice for moms
I am actually the prettiest girl in the world, probably.
Teens and alcohol.
This struck me with such a deep and utter sadness. Here is someone who obviously thinks quite seriously about her looks and her outward appearance, but in that one word: probably. It says it all, she is so in need of outward acceptance.
I want to give some advice to the girl that is searching this term, and to the parents who want to help their daughters with the ‘est’ issue. I want to be skinniest, smartest, prettiest.
1. Everyone Wants This
Whoever you think is the ‘most’ of anything at your school or in your life, doesn’t feel like they are. Everyone has insecurities or feelings of self-consciousness.
2. No One Has This
No one is perfect. I visit a ton of teens and families. Often times, they know each other and will mention to me:
Maria: “Oh, Vanessa, I just wish I could be as good in school as Shelley, she always has everything so together, I always just spend time talking on the phone.”
Shelley: “I am feeling so stressed, I didn’t sleep last night to study for the test today and I never have anyone to call when I take a break, none of the girls really want to hang out with me.”
Often times you do not see the truth behind other’s actions or exterior.
3. It Isn’t Always What You Think
How many times have you watched E True Hollywood Story and seen some model talk about how she finally made it to the top of her modeling career and she was still as lonely as when she started. Being the ‘skinniest’ or the ‘prettiest’ is not always what it seems.
Overall, I want my readers to know that there is a lot of pressure to be the best at what you do, be easy on yourself, be easy on each other.