Purity Rings vs. Vibrating Rings: The Teen Attitude War

I wanted to write a post about the new split that is going on within the ranks of teens.  Many parents assume that teens want salaciousness, vulgarity and pushing the edge—this is not true, there are more and more teens I am meeting who want exactly the opposite.  Lets look at both sides:

The Pure Side of Teens

Purity Rings:

Wikipedia actually has the best definition of a Purity Ring:

“Purity rings, or chastity rings/promise rings originated in the United States in the 1990s among Christian affiliated sexual abstinence groups. The rings are sold to adolescents, or to parents so that the rings may be given to their adolescent children as gifts.

It is intended that wearing a purity ring is accompanied by a religious vow to practice celibacy until marriage. The ring is usually worn on the left ring finger with the implication that the wearer will remain abstinent until it is replaced with a wedding ring. Although the ring is worn on the hand, where others can see, its main purpose is to serve as a constant reminder to the wearer of their commitment between themselves and God to remain pure until marriage.”

Purity rings are becoming quite popular and the idea of being ‘pure’ is becoming more and more ‘in.’

Anti-Cursing Club

You heard about this right? A 14 year-old boy was tired of being badgered at school by four letter words and started an anti-cussing club.  Many girls I have been speaking with are trying hard not to curse because they think ‘it is unlady-like.’

Virginity Pacts

Many dads and daughters are making virginity pacts and attending virginity dances.  Could this be the new Cotillion lessons?

“I want to be like Grace”

I am referring here, of course, to Grace Bowman on my least favorite show on television—The Secret Life of the American Teenager (I really do not like this show).  Her character is sweet, a proud virgin, religious, pure and very blonde.  Many girls are gravitating towards her character over some of the Blair of Gossip Girl.

The Wild Side of Teens

STFree Card

Forget your drivers license, teens want to get STFree Cards which are STD Free Card that claims the carrier is free of sexually transmitted diseases….seriously!  This speaks to the larger trend of hooking up so frequently that you need to flash a card you are STD free and sexuality has become very numb.

Pregnancy Pacts

We do not know whether or not this was a news-made story, but it speaks to some of the larger trends of groups of girls who love their sexuality, their maturity and think they are way older than they are.


Non-Committal Make-out.  Yup, this is a very popular trend of making-out and hooking up with lots of different people and moving from one person to the next like they are disposable dinners.  PMB means “Purely Makin’ Bacon” as in I don’t really want to talk to you, I don’t really want to know you, I just want to have sex with you.

Classic Mean Teens

Blair and Serena of Gossip Girl, Alicia Rivera of the Clique Series and Draco Malfoy of Harry Potter (you can tell I really love teen fiction) are the classic mean characters of stories.  The problem is, teens are now actually trying to be more like them.  TV has often glamorized the ‘mean’ characters and made them, sometimes, cooler than the heroine.  Are we celebrating the teen bitch?

Rainbow Parties

I wrote a whole post on sex parties and theme parties in High School.  This sect of teens is very into communal hook-ups, blatant sexuality and being sensual very, very young.

Yes, teens are becoming more and more sexualized, but there is a small, but vocal movement that is moving in the opposite direction—thank goodness!

4 Responses to “Purity Rings vs. Vibrating Rings: The Teen Attitude War”

  1. kayla
    October 7, 2008 at 6:25 am #

    I just wanted to say I love your post, i will be back to read more thank you so much!

  2. Mary
    May 19, 2009 at 11:36 pm #

    I am not sure how wanting to protect yourself and the ones you have sex with is a bad thing. I think STFree cards are a great idea. This wont only be for teens, but the millions of ADULTS who go to bars and have one night stands. Children need to be educated on sex to protect themselves, sex is a tempting thing and sometimes kids, who were taught abstinence, give in. People screw up, it happens. But these kids who do will have no knowledge of how to protect themselves. Knowledge is power. Take away that knowledge and we have nothing.

  3. Cathy
    June 23, 2009 at 6:42 pm #

    There is a huge difference between promise rings (see link for photos) and purity rings. I believe that having a promise ring actually proves a commitment to another and that they are the only person you are willing to be with.

  4. Nicotine :
    October 30, 2010 at 11:43 am #

    promise rings are very memorable to me because i gave a promise ring to my girlfriend who became my wife after a year.

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