I wanted to write a post about the new split that is going on within the ranks of teens. Many parents assume that teens want salaciousness, vulgarity and pushing the edge—this is not true, there are more and more teens I am meeting who want exactly the opposite. Lets look at both sides:
The Pure Side of Teens
Wikipedia actually has the best definition of a Purity Ring:
“Purity rings, or chastity rings/promise rings originated in the United States in the 1990s among Christian affiliated sexual abstinence groups. The rings are sold to adolescents, or to parents so that the rings may be given to their adolescent children as gifts.
It is intended that wearing a purity ring is accompanied by a religious vow to practice celibacy until marriage. The ring is usually worn on the left ring finger with the implication that the wearer will remain abstinent until it is replaced with a wedding ring. Although the ring is worn on the hand, where others can see, its main purpose is to serve as a constant reminder to the wearer of their commitment between themselves and God to remain pure until marriage.”
Purity rings are becoming quite popular and the idea of being ‘pure’ is becoming more and more ‘in.’
You heard about this right? A 14 year-old boy was tired of being badgered at school by four letter words and started an anti-cussing club. Many girls I have been speaking with are trying hard not to curse because they think ‘it is unlady-like.’
Many dads and daughters are making virginity pacts and attending virginity dances. Could this be the new Cotillion lessons?
“I want to be like Grace”
I am referring here, of course, to Grace Bowman on my least favorite show on television—The Secret Life of the American Teenager (I really do not like this show). Her character is sweet, a proud virgin, religious, pure and very blonde. Many girls are gravitating towards her character over some of the Blair of Gossip Girl.
Forget your drivers license, teens want to get STFree Cards which are STD Free Card that claims the carrier is free of sexually transmitted diseases….seriously! This speaks to the larger trend of hooking up so frequently that you need to flash a card you are STD free and sexuality has become very numb.
We do not know whether or not this was a news-made story, but it speaks to some of the larger trends of groups of girls who love their sexuality, their maturity and think they are way older than they are.
NCMO and PMB
Non-Committal Make-out. Yup, this is a very popular trend of making-out and hooking up with lots of different people and moving from one person to the next like they are disposable dinners. PMB means “Purely Makin’ Bacon” as in I don’t really want to talk to you, I don’t really want to know you, I just want to have sex with you.
Classic Mean Teens
Blair and Serena of Gossip Girl, Alicia Rivera of the Clique Series and Draco Malfoy of Harry Potter (you can tell I really love teen fiction) are the classic mean characters of stories. The problem is, teens are now actually trying to be more like them. TV has often glamorized the ‘mean’ characters and made them, sometimes, cooler than the heroine. Are we celebrating the teen bitch?
I wrote a whole post on sex parties and theme parties in High School. This sect of teens is very into communal hook-ups, blatant sexuality and being sensual very, very young.
Yes, teens are becoming more and more sexualized, but there is a small, but vocal movement that is moving in the opposite direction—thank goodness!