Comments on: A Parenting Dilemma – Why it is okay to “spy” kids while they are online? http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/12/21/a-parenting-dilemma-%e2%80%93-why-it-is-okay-to-%e2%80%9cspy%e2%80%9d-kids-while-they-are-online/ Parenting From The Kids Perspective Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:51:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Vanessa Van Petten http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/12/21/a-parenting-dilemma-%e2%80%93-why-it-is-okay-to-%e2%80%9cspy%e2%80%9d-kids-while-they-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-1545 Vanessa Van Petten Wed, 18 Mar 2009 04:22:00 +0000 http://www.onteenstoday.com/?p=2102#comment-1545 Hi Gayle Agreed! Thanks for that addition Vanessa Hi Gayle

Agreed! Thanks for that addition

Vanessa

]]> By: Gayle http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/12/21/a-parenting-dilemma-%e2%80%93-why-it-is-okay-to-%e2%80%9cspy%e2%80%9d-kids-while-they-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-1542 Gayle Wed, 18 Mar 2009 01:58:57 +0000 http://www.onteenstoday.com/?p=2102#comment-1542 I totally agree BUT also believe creating a set of rules and telling them all computers in a household are watched. They are children living at home and home is run by the parents. Computer usage is no acception. Talk to them about the monitoring and explain why you want to know what happens on the computers in your home. Its better than betraying them with evidence. Also when you catch undesirable behavior or conversations begin by asking them about their computer friends and review the rules about giving out info or meeting strangers. Sometimes a trust is built up with a cyber friend and the child innocently opens up as well. Talk to them about the dangers and to not trust everyone. Just as you would warn them about strangers in malls or cars etc. Use the tool to help parent not keep a police state! You might even find your child is screaming for help by writing certain things and this may be your only key to intervention and help. How many parents of suicides and child abductions only wish they knew more about what was going on. Tell them you have the software installed. I totally agree BUT also believe creating a set of rules and telling them all computers in a household are watched. They are children living at home and home is run by the parents. Computer usage is no acception. Talk to them about the monitoring and explain why you want to know what happens on the computers in your home. Its better than betraying them with evidence. Also when you catch undesirable behavior or conversations begin by asking them about their computer friends and review the rules about giving out info or meeting strangers. Sometimes a trust is built up with a cyber friend and the child innocently opens up as well. Talk to them about the dangers and to not trust everyone. Just as you would warn them about strangers in malls or cars etc. Use the tool to help parent not keep a police state! You might even find your child is screaming for help by writing certain things and this may be your only key to intervention and help. How many parents of suicides and child abductions only wish they knew more about what was going on.
Tell them you have the software installed.

]]> By: Lin http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/12/21/a-parenting-dilemma-%e2%80%93-why-it-is-okay-to-%e2%80%9cspy%e2%80%9d-kids-while-they-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-1374 Lin Mon, 22 Dec 2008 15:56:03 +0000 http://www.onteenstoday.com/?p=2102#comment-1374 Michael, Child protection involves many things in today's society, and parents absolutely must know what their children are doing online. Protecting our children is not spying. It is doing everything within our power and ability to keep them and our families safe. Not everyone our children come in contact with turns out to be a predator, but how would parents know that if they aren't paying very close attention to what their kids are doing online? One of the scariest things about the "advances in technology" is the number of children and teens who have those darn webcams attached to their computers. Many parents don't know the dangers of webcams, but typically focus on telling their kids not to go to chat rooms etc. Children and teens have webcams in their bedrooms, where predators know how to turn on the webcam by remote, and the kids don't even know they're being watched. It's great that the situation you describe did not turn out badly, but more and more kids/teens are talking to adults online without knowing it and the situations don't end up nearly as well. Parents, you need to know what your kids are doing online at all times. Michael,

Child protection involves many things in today’s society, and parents absolutely must know what their children are doing online. Protecting our children is not spying. It is doing everything within our power and ability to keep them and our families safe.

Not everyone our children come in contact with turns out to be a predator, but how would parents know that if they aren’t paying very close attention to what their kids are doing online?

One of the scariest things about the “advances in technology” is the number of children and teens who have those darn webcams attached to their computers. Many parents don’t know the dangers of webcams, but typically focus on telling their kids not to go to chat rooms etc.

Children and teens have webcams in their bedrooms, where predators know how to turn on the webcam by remote, and the kids don’t even know they’re being watched.

It’s great that the situation you describe did not turn out badly, but more and more kids/teens are talking to adults online without knowing it and the situations don’t end up nearly as well.

Parents, you need to know what your kids are doing online at all times.

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