two points i would like to make

1 a teen needs to be acosed of the right thing e.g. if i get away w lying ill think its easy, if i then get in trouble for something i didn’t do ill think that if i lie or not i will be acused for it so what is the point. this means that you need to have a way of always knowing who did what without lies even needing to come in to it. also when getting someone in trouble dont list the things you think they have done because half the things on this list they won’t have done and those are the only ones a teen will hear.

2 DO NOT lable a child as a liar because i know thati have found that if i ever have second thoughts about a lie i will often think well i lie its what i do (luckely im begining to break that habbit). the reason for this, i think, is that as a teen i am looking for an identity and any thing you say is helping us find that. so don’t let them think you think of them as liars. this includes right now i found this site because my mother was looking up how to deal with liars and i saw it when i was looking though the history on my computer and it made me feel dirty. if and child sees that you where on this they will go “oh ok i am a liar”

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laura

It clearly tells us that the kids who lie the most have parents who are not very strict and let them get away with too much. Also that overly strictness can push a child to rebel is a MYTH….
I was brought up super strict, you know what? it made me sneaky and most of my behaviour and lies were well thought out.
I have been married more than once, and left because my husbands weren’t just strict, they were mean! Bullies who really didn’t understand that respect wasn’t automatic, fear was.
Anyway, My 14 yo just spent a month of school holidays with her stepfather and his new family. I got several phone calls informing me that she lied non stop most of the time she was there, telling his Girlfriend and her daughter that he beat her and stealing from them too.
She is one of 5 children so its not the first time I’ve dealt with this… and no I still dont know the answer.
She lies constantly here too, lies about going to school, and taking her sister’s clothing, cd’s etc. Her answer is always the same… “I dont know”
I’ve tried virtually all means of discipline, from grounding to taking away all her privilages.. it doesn’t stop.
so what is the answer? how do we make them talk to us and tell us what is going on?
Jeanette

Thanks for this! I will check out the article

Thanks for reading!

Vanessa

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Thanks so much for adding your thoughts on this!

Vanessa

Personally, I think you need to look deep down inside you and ask yourself, and don’t lie to yourself, if your child has the aptitude to be a liar. If they do, then certainly look above and check it. But if not, then yes, check it, but don’t freak out if they say one of those things. Most likely they are being sincere.