Comments on: Teens and Masturbation: If You Catch Your Child Masturbating http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/ Parenting From The Kids Perspective Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:51:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: amy http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-24152 amy Fri, 23 Apr 2010 23:27:36 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-24152 hi, i'm amy, i'm 13 years old and i was in my room and it seemed no body was around so i started masturbating - intensly and later that day my bro asked me to get him a bannana from the fridge and when i gave it to him he said "eww, what's all this sticky, white stuff on it?" and in the afternoon (my bro is 16) i went back to my room and stuck my hands in my undies and it felt really good, then he came in and saw me and i screamed! he said, "hey, i didn't mean to frighten you, how about we have a brother sister talk. well, when you are your age it is usual to masturbate..." and now i can't even stand to look at him - too embarrassing! hi, i’m amy,
i’m 13 years old and i was in my room and it seemed no body was around so i started masturbating – intensly and later that day my bro asked me to get him a bannana from the fridge and when i gave it to him he said “eww, what’s all this sticky, white stuff on it?” and in the afternoon (my bro is 16) i went back to my room and stuck my hands in my undies and it felt really good, then he came in and saw me and i screamed! he said, “hey, i didn’t mean to frighten you, how about we have a brother sister talk. well, when you are your age it is usual to masturbate…” and now i can’t even stand to look at him – too embarrassing!

]]> By: Daniel http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-20560 Daniel Thu, 15 Apr 2010 23:23:11 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-20560 Yeah, when you think your child is masturbating in a room because you hear him/her, DONT CHECK! It's there business, and if you really need to know, ask them. But get the Dad to ask, not the Mom. Yeah, when you think your child is masturbating in a room because you hear him/her, DONT CHECK! It’s there business, and if you really need to know, ask them. But get the Dad to ask, not the Mom.

]]> By: chrisy z http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-13707 chrisy z Fri, 02 Apr 2010 03:20:15 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-13707 well im trying not to have a heart attack right now i have just been caught by my grandma and i was watching some stuff too omg she said "WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING if your doing something bab you will go 2 hell" im like in shock this was like my 3 time doing it im 13 and im a girl can you say acward omg im going 2 die!! well im trying not to have a heart attack right now i have just been caught by my grandma and i was watching some stuff too omg she said “WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING if your doing something bab you will go 2 hell” im like in shock this was like my 3 time doing it im 13 and im a girl can you say acward omg im going 2 die!!

]]> By: Rob http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-13171 Rob Thu, 01 Apr 2010 04:41:58 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-13171 Parent here (six-year-old girl, so this is not yet an issue, but I'm preparing myself...). I think the word "caught" is not inappropriate, since one is being seen doing something one would prefer was private, just as one might be "caught" picking one's nose. Nothing wrong with it, but I'd still rather not be seen doing it. However, I do take issue with the word "culprit." A culprit is *guilty* of something, and there's nothing to be guilty of about masturbation: it's natural, it feels good, and it relieves pressures that might otherwise lead to some *truly* inappropriate behavior. You can't overdo masturbating, unless it becomes an obsession and starts to interfere with your life, or unless you rub yourself raw. Micheal says that religion will help you "get over" masturbation, but unless your religion is opposed to it, there's no need to worry about "getting over" it. Thanks for this site: I'll be exploring it a lot because I need all the help I can get to be a good parent. Parent here (six-year-old girl, so this is not yet an issue, but I’m preparing myself…). I think the word “caught” is not inappropriate, since one is being seen doing something one would prefer was private, just as one might be “caught” picking one’s nose. Nothing wrong with it, but I’d still rather not be seen doing it.

However, I do take issue with the word “culprit.” A culprit is *guilty* of something, and there’s nothing to be guilty of about masturbation: it’s natural, it feels good, and it relieves pressures that might otherwise lead to some *truly* inappropriate behavior.

You can’t overdo masturbating, unless it becomes an obsession and starts to interfere with your life, or unless you rub yourself raw. Micheal says that religion will help you “get over” masturbation, but unless your religion is opposed to it, there’s no need to worry about “getting over” it.

Thanks for this site: I’ll be exploring it a lot because I need all the help I can get to be a good parent.

]]> By: Vanessa Van Petten http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-9964 Vanessa Van Petten Fri, 26 Mar 2010 19:10:03 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-9964 Goodness, that is a good question. First I want you to think about wanting to talk to her. I am not saying you shouldn't, but it might be something that you and your later boyfriends talk about. Think about why you want to talk to her about it. Second, once you figure out why, maybe some questions or things you were wondering about, I would approach your mom like that. Start with an open question like "Mom, I saw recently in a magazine article people talking about masturbating. What do you think about this?" Brave of you for being so open! Goodness, that is a good question.

First I want you to think about wanting to talk to her. I am not saying you shouldn’t, but it might be something that you and your later boyfriends talk about. Think about why you want to talk to her about it.

Second, once you figure out why, maybe some questions or things you were wondering about, I would approach your mom like that. Start with an open question like “Mom, I saw recently in a magazine article people talking about masturbating. What do you think about this?”

Brave of you for being so open!

]]> By: J http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-8023 J Tue, 23 Mar 2010 03:54:53 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-8023 Hi well im a 15 year old girl and i was reading your article in some hopes as to find out how to talk to my mother about masturbation, i really don't know how she would react and whenever i muster up enough courage to talk to her about it i look at her and think of what will happen and i can never do it. I think all of you points in your article are correct and even some in the comments, but i think it would be helpful if a different point of view was adressed, how to talk about it to parents? Hi well im a 15 year old girl and i was reading your article in some hopes as to find out how to talk to my mother about masturbation, i really don’t know how she would react and whenever i muster up enough courage to talk to her about it i look at her and think of what will happen and i can never do it. I think all of you points in your article are correct and even some in the comments, but i think it would be helpful if a different point of view was adressed, how to talk about it to parents?

]]> By: liny http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-6381 liny Fri, 26 Feb 2010 01:40:57 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-6381 Hey! I am almost 15 ys old, and yes I masturbat. I don't know much about this kind of stuff [thats why I'm out hear]. And No my parents have not talked to me about the 411 on sex! I have masturbated for about 2 years [I guess] and thank God I have not been caught, YET!!! Anyway this site has helped me alot - Thanks Hey! I am almost 15 ys old, and yes I masturbat. I don’t know much about this kind of stuff [thats why I'm out hear]. And No my parents have not talked to me about the 411 on sex! I have masturbated for about 2 years [I guess] and thank God I have not been caught, YET!!! Anyway this site has helped me alot – Thanks

]]> By: Darryl http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-6057 Darryl Mon, 01 Feb 2010 18:29:17 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-6057 I am so glad to have read this article and it's various replies. I discovered my 14 year old son masturbating as well (and I also do not have a problem with the word "caught"), but he was very embarrased and closed up on me, but I sat him down and told him that it was normal and that daddy went through the same thing. That seemed to help him relax about it. My only concern is that he might beging to over do it because it feels so good to him. I mean I don't want him trying to try to use every private moment he can find to pleasure himself. Am I over concerned or should I worry? This article mentioned that it will pass, but I am not sure it will pass before he will actually becomes sexually active, which of course I am hoping is still a few years off. I have twins and, I already had the birds and the beeds talk with them, but when I did at 13, I was shocked to discover that they both had already had wet dreams and had been having them for months they said. Boy was I shocked and I guess a bit late with my bird and bees talk. Eitherway, I am a single dad and me and my young sons are very close and I hope that they feel comfortable talking with me about things like this but thus far I don't think they are. Anyhow, is there anything I can OR SHOULD say to my son to get him to masturbate in moderation, because I have a feeling he is doing it everyday. Would love to get everyone's thoughts on this. Thanks! -Darryl I am so glad to have read this article and it’s various replies. I discovered my 14 year old son masturbating as well (and I also do not have a problem with the word “caught”), but he was very embarrased and closed up on me, but I sat him down and told him that it was normal and that daddy went through the same thing. That seemed to help him relax about it.

My only concern is that he might beging to over do it because it feels so good to him. I mean I don’t want him trying to try to use every private moment he can find to pleasure himself. Am I over concerned or should I worry? This article mentioned that it will pass, but I am not sure it will pass before he will actually becomes sexually active, which of course I am hoping is still a few years off.

I have twins and, I already had the birds and the beeds talk with them, but when I did at 13, I was shocked to discover that they both had already had wet dreams and had been having them for months they said. Boy was I shocked and I guess a bit late with my bird and bees talk.

Eitherway, I am a single dad and me and my young sons are very close and I hope that they feel comfortable talking with me about things like this but thus far I don’t think they are.

Anyhow, is there anything I can OR SHOULD say to my son to get him to masturbate in moderation, because I have a feeling he is doing it everyday. Would love to get everyone’s thoughts on this.

Thanks!
-Darryl

]]> By: micheal http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-6052 micheal Sun, 31 Jan 2010 06:50:22 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-6052 Hey i am a teen (14) and masturbation to me was an addiction. I would do it llike 3 times a week and everytime i did it i felt horrible. Like most teens god wasnt really a HUGE impact on my life, but you will never get over it without him. Masturbation does releive stress i guess, and it does give you a good education of your body. I learned to respect my body and masturbating was just me being selfish of my body and falling into the devils temptation. For you people out there who feel the urge to do it, just hold a bible or think of your dead grandma/pa and would they be happy if they saw what you are doing. I am a teen who has saw God and has led me out of temptation, who would like to join me? Hey i am a teen (14) and masturbation to me was an addiction. I would do it llike 3 times a week and everytime i did it i felt horrible. Like most teens god wasnt really a HUGE impact on my life, but you will never get over it without him.

Masturbation does releive stress i guess, and it does give you a good education of your body. I learned to respect my body and masturbating was just me being selfish of my body and falling into the devils temptation.

For you people out there who feel the urge to do it, just hold a bible or think of your dead grandma/pa and would they be happy if they saw what you are doing.

I am a teen who has saw God and has led me out of temptation, who would like to join me?

]]> By: Jimmy James http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/04/26/teens-and-masturbationif-you-catch-your-child-masturbating/comment-page-1/#comment-6030 Jimmy James Thu, 28 Jan 2010 02:47:37 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=3845#comment-6030 I agree just dont talk to soon and expesialy for the parents who also masterbate you know its fun and releaves stress and charlie totally right. ty JJ out I agree just dont talk to soon and expesialy for the parents who also masterbate you know its fun and releaves stress and charlie totally right.
ty JJ out

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