Comments on: Guilt Bullies: 8 Ways to Recognize Passive Aggressiveness

By: Andrea

Andrea — Sat, 25 Sep 2010 19:19:57 +0000

I’m googling myself in a workshop to come up with an anecdote about googling one’s self and stumbled across your blog post. Thanks for the shout out; it’s easy to be kind to people that are so generous to begin with. Hope you are well! Let’s catch up by e-mail!

By: Blaise Alleyne

Blaise Alleyne — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 01:00:17 +0000

This is a great analysis of subtle tactics in manipulation, but I really think you’re stretching the definition of “bullying.”

Being a jerk and manipulating someone like this is mean, but is it really the same type of thing as other sorts of bullying? Why not call it manipulation instead of bullying? How do you define bullying?

Is every kind of mean behaviour bullying?

By: Vanessa Van Petten

Vanessa Van Petten — Mon, 04 May 2009 01:33:02 +0000

Thanks Stuart!

By: Stuart Fleming

Stuart Fleming — Fri, 01 May 2009 02:20:57 +0000

Fantastic article Vanessa! As you were describing the tactics of Guilt Bullies, I realised the same behaviour can be seen between parents and teens, especially when it comes to money…
“If you loved me you’d give me $20″ (teenager master negotiator)
“Keep spending like that and you’ll wind up a bum on the street – kidding!” (frazzled parent)
Dr William Glasser is someone who understands this very well – his book ‘Choice Theory’ explains the differences between the 7 Caring Habits of a relationship and the 7 Deadly Habits. Interestingly, we never use the 7 Deadly Habits on our best friend…
Here’s to guilt-bully-busting!
Smiles,
Stuart Fleming
Creator of the Money Mindset Mob.
Enthusiastic believer in independent teens.