Meaghan is a 16-year-old from Zephyrhills, Fl. She enjoys cheerleading, shopping and her favorite subject is journalism II, she plans to be a journalist.
You are always told by your parents that you are loved equally. You should never doubt that the love that your parents have for you and your siblings is the same. But, have you ever thought about their decisions. Do you think that your parents base their decisions on what gender you are? While it may be an impossible concept to grasp, more and more teens are seeing a trend in sexist parents. Has your dad ever said yes to your older brother about going to a party, but then said no to you because you are a girl and maybe can’t fight off any dangers the may come in your path? Maybe your father tells your sister that she can borrow the car, on the other hand when you ask he tells you that boys drive too fast, so no you can’t borrow the car. How could they be so unfair to you? Well, here are five steps to show your parents that whether you’re a boy or girl, you’re still a responsible teenager.
1. Two Heads Are Better Than One
Your parents are just protecting you with their answer. They just want to know you’re safe! Next time you want to go somewhere that normally your mom and dad would disapprove of, ask your sibling to go with you. They will trust their children much more when they’re together. When I want to go out past my curfew, I ask my older brother to go with me. My mom trusts that he’ll protect me, and that I’ll look out for him also. If you’re an only child, then ask a friend who your parents really like and trust.
2. Compromise Is Key
If you parents do say no then try to give them an alternative option. Always have a plan B. Don’t keep nagging them; it will cause them to never want you to go to that place whether you’re a girl or a boy. If they feel that it’s unsafe then ask them to go somewhere that you’ve been before. It may not be as fun, but at least you’re not at home.
3. Keep Working At Them
They might just need time to cope with their teen growing up. Many parents want their child to be little again. But they need to face that their son or daughter is growing up, that doesn’t mean their going to make the wrong choices. If you want to go somewhere but know that your parents will say no, show them that you’re a responsible and smart kid. Once they see that you can handle whatever is thrown at you, they’ll lighten up on the decision
4. Don’t Compare!
I know from personal experience that parents love to compare you to your older siblings. Whenever I ask to do something they’ll tell me that my brother couldn’t do it. To me, that’s saying “If a boy can’t do it, then what makes you think a girl can?” Tell your parents that you’re not your sibling. You’re you. They need to except that you may be able to handle situations better than your siblings.
5. Accept Their Answer.
You may not like their answer, but at the end of the day you can’t change it. Most parents will stand firm on their decision. When they think you can handle yourself, then they’ll let you go. Whether you’re a male or a female, they are just protecting you.
To get a non-biased answer show your Mom and Dad that you’re a very responsible teenager. Although you may not see it, your parents might already be basing their outcomes on what sex you are. Ask them about it, tell them to be truthful. Don’t let this parenting trend get into your home.
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