Comments on: Teens Cutting: 5 Things to Know About Teens Who Cut Themselves http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/ Parenting From The Kids Perspective Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:51:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Carina Fender http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-40098 Carina Fender Wed, 05 Oct 2011 14:34:00 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-40098 hey i am 15 year old girl as well and i was just able to stop. the only way i was though is because someone who i really cared about told me that if something happened and i ended up in the hospital she would not come to see me. if i were you i would tell an adult who you trust the most and know you will listen to. also think of the person you care the most about. what if something went wrong and you never saw them again? what would that do to both of you? hey i am 15 year old girl as well and i was just able to stop. the only way i was though is because someone who i really cared about told me that if something happened and i ended up in the hospital she would not come to see me. if i were you i would tell an adult who you trust the most and know you will listen to. also think of the person you care the most about. what if something went wrong and you never saw them again? what would that do to both of you?

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-40014 Anonymous Tue, 30 Aug 2011 18:50:00 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-40014 Hi! I am so sorry you are feeling overwhelmed, please do not struggle with this alone! There are people who can help you even if you are afraid to tell them. Can you tell a parent or a counselor? or even a friends parent you are close with or an aunt or uncle? You do not have to suffer alone. Please please please reach out to someone. Hi!

I am so sorry you are feeling overwhelmed, please do not struggle with this alone! There are people who can help you even if you are afraid to tell them. Can you tell a parent or a counselor? or even a friends parent you are close with or an aunt or uncle? You do not have to suffer alone. Please please please reach out to someone.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-40015 Anonymous Tue, 30 Aug 2011 18:50:00 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-40015 Hi! I am so sorry you are feeling overwhelmed, please do not struggle with this alone! There are people who can help you even if you are afraid to tell them. Can you tell a parent or a counselor? or even a friends parent you are close with or an aunt or uncle? You do not have to suffer alone. Please please please reach out to someone. Hi!

I am so sorry you are feeling overwhelmed, please do not struggle with this alone! There are people who can help you even if you are afraid to tell them. Can you tell a parent or a counselor? or even a friends parent you are close with or an aunt or uncle? You do not have to suffer alone. Please please please reach out to someone.

]]> By: Hotezzy97 http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-40008 Hotezzy97 Mon, 29 Aug 2011 09:37:00 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-40008 Hi I am a 15year old who often cuts herself beacuse of the negative relationship I have with the ppl around me that cuz for me to get angry and cry . I also cut myself with anything I found and often drink pills to relief the pain I feel. Sometimes I need help but I like to show it in phisical ways so they can see I am serious when I get mad . Everytime it gets worse beacuse the more I get mad the more I intend to cut myself more and more . But I can't stop what should I do? Hi I am a 15year old who often cuts herself beacuse of the negative relationship I have with the ppl around me that cuz for me to get angry and cry . I also cut myself with anything I found and often drink pills to relief the pain I feel. Sometimes I need help but I like to show it in phisical ways so they can see I am serious when I get mad . Everytime it gets worse beacuse the more I get mad the more I intend to cut myself more and more . But I can’t stop what should I do?

]]> By: Hotezzy97 http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-40009 Hotezzy97 Mon, 29 Aug 2011 09:37:00 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-40009 Hi I am a 15year old who often cuts herself beacuse of the negative relationship I have with the ppl around me that cuz for me to get angry and cry . I also cut myself with anything I found and often drink pills to relief the pain I feel. Sometimes I need help but I like to show it in phisical ways so they can see I am serious when I get mad . Everytime it gets worse beacuse the more I get mad the more I intend to cut myself more and more . But I can't stop what should I do? Hi I am a 15year old who often cuts herself beacuse of the negative relationship I have with the ppl around me that cuz for me to get angry and cry . I also cut myself with anything I found and often drink pills to relief the pain I feel. Sometimes I need help but I like to show it in phisical ways so they can see I am serious when I get mad . Everytime it gets worse beacuse the more I get mad the more I intend to cut myself more and more . But I can’t stop what should I do?

]]> By: Elisabeth http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-38676 Elisabeth Sat, 16 Apr 2011 19:29:14 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-38676 I was a cutter for a long time. I think the most important thing my mom did was not to over-react. She would come into the bathroom and find that I had cut myself; she wouldn't freak out, she would just help me dress the wounds and hug me and tell me that she loved me. I was going to counseling and a psychiatrist at that time and she would sometimes come in with me. She wouldn't force me to show the counselor the cuts, but she was just there to give me emotional support. I am so blessed for all my mom did for me. I think she did the perfect thing. I often think parents take it personally when their child indulges in self-harm actions. But it's important not to make it about the parent. This is about the child asking for help, or trying to lessen the pressure they feel. I understand how cutters feel so deeply and I just want to say that you're not alone. And you're not evil or stupid or weak for doing it. It's sometimes all you can do to let the pain out. That said, I know that once started, cutting can become an addiction. The more you do it, the more you need. Which is why it is important to let someone know. Because it just takes one more step to make a decision that will ruin your life, or even take your life away. Thanks for this blog. I don't agree with everything :) but I appreciate a place where teens can come and feel like they are understood. Keep up the great work. I was a cutter for a long time. I think the most important thing my mom did was not to over-react. She would come into the bathroom and find that I had cut myself; she wouldn’t freak out, she would just help me dress the wounds and hug me and tell me that she loved me.

I was going to counseling and a psychiatrist at that time and she would sometimes come in with me. She wouldn’t force me to show the counselor the cuts, but she was just there to give me emotional support.

I am so blessed for all my mom did for me. I think she did the perfect thing. I often think parents take it personally when their child indulges in self-harm actions. But it’s important not to make it about the parent. This is about the child asking for help, or trying to lessen the pressure they feel.

I understand how cutters feel so deeply and I just want to say that you’re not alone. And you’re not evil or stupid or weak for doing it. It’s sometimes all you can do to let the pain out.

That said, I know that once started, cutting can become an addiction. The more you do it, the more you need. Which is why it is important to let someone know. Because it just takes one more step to make a decision that will ruin your life, or even take your life away.

Thanks for this blog. I don’t agree with everything :) but I appreciate a place where teens can come and feel like they are understood. Keep up the great work.

]]> By: Vanessa Van Petten http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-38129 Vanessa Van Petten Wed, 23 Mar 2011 21:08:09 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-38129 Your mom should definitely not joke about this. Im glad you are in a group for it. You should tell them that a big part of this for you is that your mom doesnt take you seriously. Perhaps if another adult tells her, she will realize that she is under-reacting! Your mom should definitely not joke about this. Im glad you are in a group for it. You should tell them that a big part of this for you is that your mom doesnt take you seriously. Perhaps if another adult tells her, she will realize that she is under-reacting!

]]> By: Rochelle http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-38098 Rochelle Mon, 21 Mar 2011 01:07:23 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-38098 hello, well im 14 years old and i have been cutting for a little over 1 years...off and on now, and my mom is going crazy about it...i told her about me cutting my self about 5 mounts into it. and she just made a big joke out of it then i said i need to talk to someone and she said fine so i have been going to this person since like aug 2010 in the start of 2010 she had me in this group thing that i liked ALOT. and well i guess im just asking whp do i make my mom see this is not a big joke? anything would help...thanks :) hello, well im 14 years old and i have been cutting for a little over 1 years…off and on now, and my mom is going crazy about it…i told her about me cutting my self about 5 mounts into it. and she just made a big joke out of it then i said i need to talk to someone and she said fine so i have been going to this person since like aug 2010 in the start of 2010 she had me in this group thing that i liked ALOT.
and well i guess im just asking whp do i make my mom see this is not a big joke?

anything would help…thanks :)

]]> By: Vanessa Van Petten http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-33648 Vanessa Van Petten Tue, 14 Dec 2010 17:54:26 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-33648 Hi Anonymous, I think it is really important to get her help even if she refuses it. It is her safety. I would talk to a therapist or school counselor and ask them how you should bring her in. Best, Vanessa Hi Anonymous,

I think it is really important to get her help even if she refuses it. It is her safety. I would talk to a therapist or school counselor and ask them how you should bring her in.

Best,

Vanessa

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/11/05/cutting-5-things-to-know-about-teens-who-hurt-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-33149 Anonymous Tue, 14 Dec 2010 15:58:51 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=6638#comment-33149 Hi I have a 14 year old daughter that is cutting her self and she refuses to talk to anyone about it. What do you think I should do? Thank you, Anonymous Hi I have a 14 year old daughter that is cutting her self and she refuses to talk to anyone about it. What do you think I should do?

Thank you,
Anonymous

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