I am also, like most girls of the nation totally obsessed with Twilight. In fact, I had a huge life changing moment when I saw New Moon and switched from Team Edward to Team Jacob…I know, I know it is huge.
As much as I love Twilight, I have started rereading the books and realized there are a few lessons I really do NOT want teen girls to take away from the books. I love that they wait until Marriage, I love that there is no cussing, I love that they are not obsessed with texting or Facebook and I love that there are no drugs or partying…I don’t know how realistic it is, but I like the message. However, there are a few messages that Twilight sends that I am not a huge fan of. Of course, I think and hope teen girls are smart enough to see the negatives of this behavior, but I point them out for parents to discuss with their Twihard teenagers nonetheless.
1. Bella Never Eats
When Bella is human she is never hungry. She never eats and is always saying that her stomach is just too filled with ‘butterflies’ to eat. There is more than one scene in the cafeteria where she either has a coke for lunch and apple or nothing. Love makes you hungry, that is a good thing! She also does not like to eat around Edward because he doesn’t eat. Men like a girl who can have a nice meal (I am sure Edward would agree.)
2. Sleep Watching
OK, I’l admit it I swooned a little when Edward admits to Bella that he watches her sleep when she did not know it. Then I put the book down, went to grab a snack and was like…whoa…maybe that’s a little creepy. It is a little creepy.
3. Jacob is a Bit Extreme
The whole “kiss me or I’ll kill myself thing” or the “I’ll kill you. I’ll kill you myself! I’ll do it now!” quote in Breaking Dawn Chapter 4 is a bit much and I didn’t like how extreme his emotions get to the point of suicide or murder.
Bella is clumsy but Edward also unwittingly hurts her when he is intimate with her. This is a fine line to tread, it makes sense for the story line, but I think it plants a false notion in the readers head that “if he didn’t mean to then it is ok that Bella got hurt.” With the rise of teen relationship abuse it makes me a bit nervous.
5. Lying Never Seems to Go Punished
Bella lies to her parents a lot, and there is not many consequences, even when she is grounded she gets around the rules and Edward sneaks upstairs. I am not saying that Bella should be grounded for the whole book, but lying should not go unpunished.
6. Having Boys Over Secretly
Bella’s bedroom window might as well be the front door. Jacob comes in, Edward comes in, Alice comes in…I do not like that Bella is using her window as the front door when it is not the safest, Charlie doesn’t know and I think it sends a wrong message.
I love Twilight and love its overall feeling, I just wanted to point out a few issues that bother me for parents to discuss with their kids reading the novels.