Vivian is a 14-year-old from Miami, FL. She enjoys music and hanging out with friends. In the future, she hopes to become a psychologist because she loves helping others in their times of need.
Wake up. Go to school. After school activities. Go home. Do homework.. Go to sleep. Repeat. This is a typical teenager’s weekday schedule, and there usually is very little time to squeeze in this already hectic day. Not only are the academics getting through a person’s head, but also the social aspect of things, as well. Below, I have created a list on just WHY teens are so stressed out these days.
1) School. Yes, the obvious. School is the major reason why teens are so stressed these days. This broad range demands so much from teenagers. Students have to cope with the raising demands of the teachers every day, and they also need to know how to be interactive and socialize with peers as well. The work load can be so much that teens can result in having panic attacks, which are not good for ANYONE’s health.
2) Identity. Being a teenager, this is the time allotted to us to be able to find ourselves and define who we are. This is one of the main reasons why a teen occasionally acts out weirdly and out of tune: because they are trying to find who they are, and with that, they have to attempt new things. When the end result of trying that new thing fails, the stress meter starts growing higher and higher, and after a while, the teen can just completely give up and becoming emotionally depressed.
3) Expectations. Parents these days are casting inordinate amounts of pressure onto their kids, and eventually, the things expected of them become impossible to achieve. For example, my parents are always praising my brother on how he was class valedictorian and all of his accomplishments. They also constantly say that I should achieve as much as him, and sometimes, it is way too much to handle. I am afraid that when the time comes, I will disappoint them and not live up to their standards. This bothers me all the time, so parents, I advise that you should not pressure your child excessively.
4) Friendships. People who used to call themselves your “friends” these days always let you down and backstab you with floating rumors or other methods. The results can be devastating: friends who you thought were your friends are no more, and now you have a sense of insecurity and loneliness creeping up inside of you. Friends who have been there for you for 5 years are gone in the blink of an eye, all because they changed their mind about you in a second. When friendships break, one sometimes has nowhere to turn and is sometimes forced to endure the hard process alone.
5) Romance. Teenage relationships can be a hard thing to handle, especially with all the ups and downs. Plus, most teenage relationships are vulnerable to breaking up (of course there are some exceptions) and resulting in heartbreak. All those times spent together have vanished into thin air, and sometimes, the victim can go through a series of questions such as “Am I good enough? What’s wrong about me?” These sorts of questions can really tamper one’s self-esteem and cause their stress level to increase.
Based on experience, if I am ever going through a hard and stressful time, I try to remember to relax and be optimistic. Lots of times, the morose person will be pessimistic, but I have found out that thinking happy thoughts really does improve one’s mood and in turn, their stress level. Also, talking to a trusted person can really be up lifting so that you have someone to share your experiences and feelings with. But, never let stress become the best of you and take over your life, which will only result in tumult.