Comments on: The 10 Ultimate MISTAKES Parents Make http://www.radicalparenting.com/2010/01/14/the-10-ultimate-mistakes-parents-make/ Parenting From The Kids Perspective Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:51:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kitty http://www.radicalparenting.com/2010/01/14/the-10-ultimate-mistakes-parents-make/comment-page-1/#comment-5986 Kitty Mon, 18 Jan 2010 16:41:33 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=7467#comment-5986 I agree with Satsuki. Parents are just AS important. Also, on being fair, >>If one does something bad and then something bad is done in return this is a relationship with no trust or emotions. It also puts a focus on revenge rather than forgiveness.<< Teaching consequences is not the same as revenge. When a child does something bad and then something bad is done in return this is a relationship with agreements and expectations in place that once broken have consequences to their lifestyle. Focus is on consequences. In any even, forgiveness is separate from being fair. Always allowing a child an opportunity to earn back trust and allowing them to always maintain their dignity sends a message that they are forgiven (in a balanced relationship with you). I agree with Satsuki. Parents are just AS important. Also, on being fair, >>If one does something bad and then something bad is done in return this is a relationship with no trust or emotions. It also puts a focus on revenge rather than forgiveness.<<
Teaching consequences is not the same as revenge. When a child does something bad and then something bad is done in return this is a relationship with agreements and expectations in place that once broken have consequences to their lifestyle. Focus is on consequences. In any even, forgiveness is separate from being fair. Always allowing a child an opportunity to earn back trust and allowing them to always maintain their dignity sends a message that they are forgiven (in a balanced relationship with you).

]]> By: Satsuki http://www.radicalparenting.com/2010/01/14/the-10-ultimate-mistakes-parents-make/comment-page-1/#comment-5969 Satsuki Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:24:19 +0000 http://www.radicalparenting.com/?p=7467#comment-5969 "Thinking parents are more important than friends" I'm sorry but I have to disagree... at least to an extent. Friends are not more important. This isn't a fight. It's about raising our children to be emotionally healthy in their interpersonal relationships- all interpersonal relationships. We shouldn't devalue one area of a child's life for the sake of another. “Thinking parents are more important than friends”

I’m sorry but I have to disagree… at least to an extent. Friends are not more important. This isn’t a fight. It’s about raising our children to be emotionally healthy in their interpersonal relationships- all interpersonal relationships. We shouldn’t devalue one area of a child’s life for the sake of another.

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