Carrie is a 15-year-old from Oakland, CA. She enjoys teaching herself piano, reading fanfics online, and her favorite subject is science and history because she wants to be either a lawyer or doctor.
Being young, there will be millions of pieces of advice to take in. I always hated getting advice; each time I heard one, it floated out the other ear. In confidence that I had complete control of my life, I ignored every advice thrown at me. My heart told me I could do anything; I could handle the worst on my own. People told me to take things one at a time, and that rest is most important. However, I did whatever I felt I could do, which included taking challenging night classes and barely getting five hours of sleep each night.
In truth, I spiraled out of control. None of my friends or family took up as much as me, clueless about the amount of stress I had. Rapidly, I felt myself falling into a bottomless pit; I realized I should have listened to others. Nevertheless, I pitied myself, spinning into depression as I kept reassuring the world was too hard on me. I felt school was way too difficult, which was the reason for my falling grades.
Speaking with a fellow upperclassman that overheard my complaints, I realized I was not the only one in this situation. He, too, suffered from the consequences of rejecting advice and going off on his own. As much as he liked his independence, he told me one thing: that no one on earth will make the decisions for us, and that everything is all in our heads.
“It’s all in your head,” he tells me every time I retell how difficult things are. And true, it is all in my head. If others could do it, why couldn’t I? Slowly and slowly, this became the base of my motivation and the best advice I’ve ever received.
Each time I encounter something as challenging as my idiotic step to stress myself, I reassure my conscious that everything is all in my head.
As they say, nothing is impossible. I can’t expect my parents, my peers, or anyone to help change the world to my liking. All I have to do is continue doing what I want. In truth, I feel like I don’t need any other advice. They can continue flying out of my ears, but nothing can stop me. I only need one. After all, it’s all in my head and it’ll stay.