5 Ways The Internet Has Changed Teen Dating

When I was in High School I would be at a school dance.  I would dance with a guy and he would be sweaty and gross. Then I would check with my friends to see if he was cute or not (he was usually dancing behind me).  When they approved, I rubbed a little harder and invariably he asked for my number.

3 to 5 days later, depending how much he liked me, he called, we chatted.  Eventually we went on a date and the relationship began.  Now it is a totally different story.

This part is the same:

“I would be at a school dance.  I would dance with a guy and he would be sweaty and gross. Then I would check with my friends to see if he was cute or not (he was usually dancing behind me).  When they approved, I rubbed a little harder and invariably he asked for my…”

But now…

He asks for my Facebook. 3 to 5 hours later, depending on how much he liked me he would friend me.  We would proceed to ‘stalk’ each other, looking at pictures, checking out each other’s friends, applications and wall postings. Then we would poke each other.  Then we would write on each other’s wall. Then we would message or send virtual gifts or rank each other on top friends application.  Then we would Facebook chat, then IM, then text, then talk.  Eventually we might see each other in person.  But by then we might already be boyfriend and girlfriend, broken up and got back together again.

The good:

1)   It takes longer

2)   You get to know each other better through a variety of different channels (IM, Facebook, Email, Text…)

3)   It is a bit more fun, poking, seeing pictures and having chats.

The bad:

1)   There is a false sense of security. You feel so much closer because you have seen all of their pictures and friends, but this is not always real.

2)   It is easy to fake it.  You know how long someone can spend getting the lighting just right for an iChat date? People also can put whatever they want up on their profiles, without you being able to verify if it is true or not.

3)   You miss facial expression and voice tone.  Even if you are talking, so much of teen dating is now done online…you miss the real life.

What do you think has changed about dating online?

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