Dear 14 year old Ashley,
School right now is an emotional struggle for you. With your acne and with your frizzy unmanageable hair, you find yourself in a position you cannot easily get out of. These flaws are making your confidence fall down, making you feel ugly. Your crush is in one of your classes, but your confidence is preventing you from making your move. He stares at you from a distance, but you don’t stare for long because of these flaws. You have one very important person on your life that is your best friend. She makes you laugh, you tell her all your secrets and thoughts and you feel really close to her. But, she points out your flaws and makes you feel unworthy at times. Is she truly a best friend for doing this to you? Is she someone you see yourself being good friends with forever? Those are the questions you have to ask yourself when you have a really good friend that treats you bad at times. Friends like these aren’t true friends, just remember that. You’re trying your best with getting good grades, but the tedious and complex teachers are making it hard for you to make that desired grade you’ve been working for. You love English, but your teacher is making you feel otherwise about the subject. Her standards, her methods, and her rude attitude makes you dislike English more and more. You’re feeling discouraged. People at your school treat you normal, while some treat you bad. Girls stare at you weirdly, boys never compliment or really talk to you, guys stare at how pneumatic you are, and guys mess with you. Some guy stole your $8 pencil, broke it apart and made you fall. Another guy farted near your face in social studies one day and made fun of your acne the same week. You suddenly grew apart from your 7th grade friend after Christmas break. This all affected you in a negative way and brainwashed you to believing you’re too ugly and unworthy for a guy. You turned to the internet to scope for guys, to find that someone who looks past the superficial, and to fill that missing piece in your life. Because of your bad luck with guys at your school, you’re using the internet to find a guy to fill that empty dark place deep within you. This isn’t the right way to meet guys, but as of now, this is your only chance. Some people treat you orthodox, treat you like a human. Those only people are your friends. Once you reach high school, some of your existing friends will find new friends and leave you. Change in high school will go faster than a blink of an eye. That’s to be expected of high school. But don’t worry, you’ll find amazing friends in high school one day. There are much worst experiences in high school than the bad experiences you’ve experienced in middle school. But, there are always good moments in high school too! Here’s some other friendly advice I have for you:
- Acne always heals; you have to give it time.
- Your hair is not ugly; you just have to find the right products to make it look its best.
- Don’t ever let anyone bring you down.
- Defeat you discouragements.
- If you’re having a bad day, change your attitude. Your negative attititude doesn’t help your day.
- Believe in yourself.
- Always remember high school is a lot different than middle school. People in high school change, there will always be someone that will not like you.
- Your best friend will rapidly change and drift away when your time in High school comes.
- Don’t trust someone instantly, there’s always a chance they’ll say something you don’t want repeated.
- Negative people are not worth your time, so don’t get upset when these people try to bring you down.
- If someone messes with you, ignore them and walk away, it’s the best you can do!
- Don’t let people take advantage of you.
- There will always be people that will come in and out of your life, so don’t get attached too easily.
- Teachers in high school are not always nice and they are stricter than your middle school teachers,
- Keep your mouth shut and don’t talk about anyone, it’s not worth it.
- Don’t say anything you don’t want repeated.
- There are always people who care about you, don’t ever think you’re unworthy to this world.
- There are always peers that will pressure you to do things if you let them. Don’t let them.
- Always try your best in school.
- Don’t let someone underestimate you.
- Push you self to the limit when it comes to academics, that’s the only way it will benefit your grades.
- Always try your best and never give up.
- To gain respect, you need to dress in respect. ( Nothing overly revealing)
- Don’t feel disappointed about not having a boyfriend, your time will come at the right moment. Opportunities will arise when you’re not looking, that’s always the case.
- Choose and think wisely in any situation you’re in.
By following this advice, it will not only benefit you for high school, it will make you feel more confident. Follow all of this advice, you will feel much better about yourself. Good luck.
Things will get better,
Your 16 year old self