Effective communication within a household secures a strong foundation to build upon. With a lack thereof, controversy will easily stir up multiple problems. Outside of the family perimeter’s, we as people verbally express our thoughts and emotions in order to convey a message. If your way of communicating isn’t fulfilling the purpose, or if the person receiving your message isn’t interpreting it correctly, it’s time to reflect and recap on two key factors: tone and approach.
How you address a situation will either make or break a conversation. Parents, if you’re speaking in a harsh tone due to anger and frustration, your child’s response will be filled with the same amount of hostility. In order to solve this problem, take a moment to reprieve your mind and relax. Ponder on what angered you, reduce your defensiveness, and calmly address your child. Discussions filled with stubbornness never resolve controversy. Effective communicating is a two-person job; one person receives, the other responds. In order to correctly respond, keen listening is involved. You must not only hear what the person is saying, you have to evaluate what is being said. Take the interpretation into consideration and listen to how the person feels, let them express their emotions, and then proceed to either agree or disagree. Typically, household problems lead to arguments because the child feels their voice isn’t being acknowledged. As a mother or father, your job is to guide, support, and listen. If you aren’t meeting the status quo, then you aren’t properly fulfilling your parental obligations, which could potentially harm your child.
Teens, when communicating turns into an argument, you need to remain respectful. There is a higher authority over you that you’re required to submit to. Keep your composure, listen carefully, and be prepared to respond appropriately. In any situation, disrespect is out of order and reflects poorly on your character. For both parents and children, respect should always be valued. Although disputes happen, everybody is entitled to their own opinion. By no means should this involve harsh judgment, demeaning statements, or harsh accusations. It is important to keep all matters into perspective and realize that arguments can only be solved with proper communication. By receiving and responding with moderate tones, listening attentively, and keeping an open minded attitude, engaging in conversations will be easier than ever, ultimately, creating and sustaining a happy household.
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