Monique is a sixteen year old girl living in Louisiana. She is a writer, dancer, and actress who enjoys playing video games and learning about others. Her favorite subjects are English, History, and Science; she plans to attend college and get a PhD in a related field.
Dear Younger Me,
Hello, I hope you’re doing well. As we’ve grown older I’ve discovered a lot of things about us that would have just…made life a whole lot easier. You’re a stubborn little one and I know you won’t listen, but I might as well write you and offer the little bit of wisdom that I’ve learned over the years.
- He Doesn’t Love You
I know, he’s cute, charming, and you think he’s the guy that will love you forever. I know you’re a big romantic and all, but your assumptions of him are mistaken. The sad truth is he most likely wants to get in your pants and will tell you anything to get what he wants. I love you are three words that you have abused, will continue to abuse, and get you into tough situations. I wish you would treasure those words more than you do. It’s only meant to be said to certain people and you tend to pick the wrong ones. Pick who you say it to wisely, and don’t let them manipulate you because you say you love them.
- Don’t Forget Your Friends
You won’t keep them forever, but you can’t sacrifice them. You of all people should know how it is to feel like you’re completely alone against the world. However, when you finally get the large amount of friends you want, you forget how to be a friend. When you find those loyal friends (you know who they are) offer them what you want in return. You get what you give: So be the friend you want in life. Don’t take them for granted and don’t ignore them. You’ll suffer when you need someone most.
- Stay Out of It
I know you’re angry, and I know you feel like you need to get involved but the truth is you really don’t. Just take a breath and walk away. I wish I could tell you just how many bad situations you would avoid and how many friend you would keep if you took this piece of advice. I know the consequences of your dramatics have lead you to a silver lining; However, I wonder what it would have been like if you had just walked away from all the drama.
- Put Your Pride Away
You will need help in your life. Don’t let your pride get in the way of you getting it. Especially with your learning disorders. You are not stupid, and asking for help will not make you stupid. It will not make you less creditable. It will not make you weak. It will make you stronger. It will make you wiser, and in the long run you’ll be happy that you did. This doesn’t just go for school; This is for everything: friends, drama, emotional problems, everything.
- Jealousy is ugly
You are your ugliest when you’re jealous, and you can be a very jealous person. First of all, they have nothing that you don’t have or can’t make up for. I won’t lie, you’ll have a hard time loving yourself and scoping out what you’re good at. You will underestimate everything you do, and will lead you down a jealous path. But You know what? you are beautiful, talented, and a genuine person. He didn’t cheat on you because she was better than you. He cheated because he’s just one of those guys, and there is no point in getting jealous for the affection of their kind. And the jealousy of your best friend? That’s pathetic and you know it. She’s as wonderful as you are; However, she is who she is and you are who you are. Appreciate the uniqueness that has been given specifically to you and love yourself. There’s no point in being jealous.
- Appreciate Your Family
They are really the few people who will be with you no matter what. You have been blessed with two wonderful parents and very large number of amazing siblings. Do you know how many people don’t have the privileges you have? Appreciate everything. Even the messed up stuff they do. Even if Mom and Dad don’t let you go out with your friends one night, tell them you love them. They’re doing what is best for you, and I swear they know better than you. Even when your little sister steals your clothes, tell her you love her and take it as a compliment. Even when your older siblings make you so mad that you could slap them, tell them you love them. Why? Because life if short and none of you are immortal. Appreciate the unconditional love that they have for you; it’s like no other.
- Enjoy Life
Don’t regret anything. You have less than 100 years to live and love and breathe on this earth. Do not waste it. Stop sitting there and wallowing in self pity. You woke up breathing, seeing, hearing, and…well…alive. That’s enough to smile about. You can’t change what you did, so just make the best of it. Find a silver lining in everything that happens to you and accept life’s defeats gracefully. Laugh at yourself! Move on! Stop stressing over things you can’t change. Enjoy the time you are given and soak up everything good in this world. You only live once and it’s not enough time to be upset.
I hope you take what I say to heart, and even if you don’t that’s okay. Your mistakes have made us who we are today and continue to form us into who we will be in the future. I wonder what we’ll say about this letter 10 years from now.