The Busier You Are…The Happier Your Marriage?

A new study suggests that women who are busier at work are also happier with their marriages. This comes as a surprise to many busy women who feel overwhelmed with their work schedules and personal lives. However, I have recently learned that women who are actively occupied with work have happier marriages!


Researchers of this specific study looked at four years’ worth of data from 169 newlywed couples. They measured changes in workload and marital satisfaction over the course of those four years. It was also taken into account how much each spouse enjoyed their work and whether they had children or not.


Amazingly, even couples with children had the same reaction to wife’s busy schedule—as the wife’s workload increased, so did their marital happiness.


I believe this study says a lot about women, their relationship to work, and their husbands. Here are some possible explanations as to why women who are busier at work have a greater level of marital satisfaction:


1) Women who are busier at work feel better about themselves, and therefore better about their marriage. It is possible that as women take on more responsibility in their careers, their self-esteem also increases, which manifests a more confident married life.

2) The researchers in charge of the study also suggested that when women are busier at work, husbands tend to help out more often at home. This shows working women that their husbands are dependable.

3) When both the husband and wife become more industrious, their relationship may feel more equal. Inequality in relationships is a major cause of unhappiness. If both spouses are working, there is balance in the relationship.

4) Spouses have more quality time, even though they may not have quantity time. The old phrase, “distance makes the heart grow fonder” does apply here. Because the wife is busy at work, she sees her husband less, and the couple’s time together is appreciated at a much higher frequency.


It is important for couples to ponder this study and evaluate how workloads affect their own marital satisfaction. Do you think these conclusions apply to your marriage or relationship? Why or why not?

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