It’s usually impossible to get more than one-word-answers from us, but with my book “Do I Get My Allowance Before or After I’m Grounded” and my blog, I hope I can be honest about real issues that teens and pre-teens are dealing with, so you, the parents, can actually understand us (well at least a small part of our world)…and we can finally develop better relationships.
Have you ever wondered what really goes on in the mind of a teenager?
“Do I Get My Allowance Before or After I’m Grounded?” by Vanessa Van Petten
For Parents with Kids Age 7-23!
Every parent fears “losing” their child. But in this revolutionary book, youthologist Vanessa Van Petten translates what parents want to say into what teens want to hear.
At 16, Vanessa Van Petten started her award-winning website, RadicalParenting.com, in reaction to sudden friction with her parents. Today,Vanessa and more than one hundred teen contributors help thousands of parents build and maintain healthy, strong, mutually fulfilling relationships with their teenage children—by providing prescriptive advice straight from the source.
From classic fights like dating and chores to twenty-first century issues such as sexting and cyberbullying, this comprehensive book provides step-by-step guidance on every worry, including:
• Social Networking
• Peer Pressure
It’s never too late to reconnect. Vanessa Van Petten helps you learn what’s really going on in your child’s life, and most importantly—understand when to put your foot down and when to let go. This book is helpful for parents with kids ages 7 to 25–the advice is timeless and can help in all parent child relationships.
“As a teenager myself, I was greatly looking forward to reading Do I Get My Allowance Before or After I’m Grounded? because it promised to reveal to parents a realistic teen viewpoint. I am nothing less than thoroughly impressed by how well I was able to relate to everything and by the amount of teen input. Vanessa knows how to speak for us while still creating compromises that parents can live with which is why I hope my parents read this so they can see into my world.”
In a ten minute conversation you are likely to be lied to two to three times. You might not even realize how often the people in your life are being deceitful.
91% of people lie regularly at home and at work
It’s time you get the tools to better equip yourself. Human Lie Detection and Body Language 101 will teach you how to spot lies as well as uncover hidden emotions in the people you are interacting with.
Most importantly, it will help you have more honest interactions with the people in your life.
What is This Body Language Book About?
In Human Lie Detection and Body Language 101 you will learn:
- How to read body language
- How to be a human lie detector
- How to read people
- How to detect hidden emotions
- How to spot lies
This body language book is based on scientifically backed research on the how to read people’s nonverbal behavior.
Who Is This Book For?
Whether you are a business owner, parent, spouse, employee, human resources director, teacher or student, this book will change the way you interact with those around you. Here are all of the people that can benefit from this book on body language:
- Public speakers
- Human Resources Directors
- Poker Players
If you have ever interacted with another person, this book will be useful to you because our everyday interactions are filled with secret nonverbal cues just waiting to be uncovered.
What If It Doesn’t Come Naturally?
You do not have to be born with a natural inclination to read people. In fact, all people reading skills can be self-taught. Studies show that with beginner level training the average person can increase their accuracy at spotting deception from 54% to 90% accuracy.
Because this book is based in real science, it will debunk some popular myths about lying.
Lying Myth #1: If people look to the left, they are lying. If they look to the right they are telling the truth.
Although there is some science about eye direction, which we talk about in the book. It is not the most reliable form of lie detection. The book will show you more accurate (and easier) ways to spot lies.
Lying Myth #2: Liars can’t look you in the eyes.
On average, honest people will make eye contact during conversations about 60% of the time–way less than you thought, right? Liars actually look you in the eye more because they want to seei f you believe their lie or not.
Lying Myth #3: Emails and IM’s are filled with lies because it is easier to lie when people can’t see or hear you.
In the book, I will tell you which of the following have the most lies:
___Face to Face interactions
I’ll give you a hint: Shockingly, we lie the MOST in phone conversations and the LEAST in emails.
Why Is Lie Detection Important?
It is important when we know we are being lied to because it can save us money, time and sometimes even our safety. This book can train you to get to the truth 80% to 90% of the time. That can save you money on a faulty house, from hiring a bad employee or making sure you know what is really going on with your child or significant other. Unfortunately, we are not good at detecting lies. We are only right about 54% of the time! That is a little better than a coin toss. We tend to assume the best in people and have a bias towards truth–“innocent until proven guilty.”
See more about Human Lie Detection and Body Language 101 here.
TODAY SHOW CLIP:
In this breakthrough guide to understanding teenagers, author Vanessa Van Petten (see bio here) gives parents tricks and advice that is radically different than any other parenting book. Every topic is brought onto the table, as Van Petten delves into teenage sex, underage drinking, video games and teen drug use. Her candor and personal anecdotes help inform and calm parents’ fears by telling them how to prevent these issues from happening to their own children.
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Parents will discover:
• Why teenagers do drugs, break curfew and rebel; and how to stop this destructive behavior by building trust.
• How to stop your teenager from pulling away so that you can have a better relationship; open communication and real emotional connection; and empower your teen to become a happier, more productive, more successful adult.
If you would like to read a sample from the book. Here is Our Downloadable Chapter Excerpt
Testimonials and Reviews:
Winner of the Mom’s Choice Award!
Publishers Weekly Review:
DO I GET MY ALLOWANCE BEFORE OR AFTER I’M GROUNDED?
Stop Fighting, Start Talking, and Get to Know Your Teen
Author: Van Petten, Vanessa
A 25-year-old “youthologist” offers firsthand insight to assist parents and children in building better relationships.
By the time Van Petten was ready to celebrate her Sweet Sixteen, she had already achieved success as the founder of RadicalParenting.com, a website that curates parenting tips from teenagers. Building on the same formula that won her numerous accolades and skyrocketed sales of her two previously self-published titles, the author culls advice from teenagers and translates it directly into language parents can understand. “Some of the advice in this book you may not like,” Van Petten cautions parents in the introduction. This might be particularly true of the chapter entitled, “Risky Business: Smoking, Drinking, Sex and More,” in which the author adamantly states from the get-go, “Every teen will engage in ‘risky’ behavior.” Practical solutions on how to address issues ranging from chores to curfews, and even cyber bullying, can be found here, in addition to exercises for parents and their teens to improve family unity. Most effective is the author’s discussion of the distractions and difficulties presented by society’s increasing reliance on technology; she suggests enforcing electronic-free times and areas and engaging in family-wide discussions about what it means to be a good cybercitizen. Van Petten’s overarching message is that all teenagers are different, and regardless of their issues, most teenagers wish their parents would talk and listen to them more, not less.
A rational approach to defuse hand-to-hand combat parenting.
“From its unique perspective – both the teen and the adult–this book is a guide, an interpreter, and a real eye opener. It will live on your bed table as your go-to resource for the countless issues that accompany raising a teen.”—Betsy Brown Braun, author of You’re Not the Boss of Me and Just Tell Me What to Say
“As the father of a teenage daughter, I found Vanessa’s book incredibly insightful.”—Mark Gordon, producer of “Saving Private Ryan” and “Grey’s Anatomy”