EmoSocial Intelligence

At Radical Parenting, we write a lot about teaching teens and families emotional and social intelligence, or emosocial intelligence. We believe that building parent and teen emosocial intelligence will help combat bullying, social illiteracy and cut down on family fighting and miscommunication.


What is EmoSocial intelligence?

EmoSocial intelligence is a combination of emotional and social intelligence. It is first, a person’s ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself and then be able to effectively interact, maintain and build relationships with others.

Teaching social literacy involves teaching young people communication and social skills, as well as showing them how to effectively and purposefully mediate their interactions with family members, friends and colleagues in the school or business environment. Some of examples of social literacy issues might include lack of eye contact, understanding angry feelings versus fear or being able to deal successfully with confrontation.

Why is it Important?

EmoSocial intelligence is important on a number of different levels. First, as we become more and more technologically savvy, we interact with each other less and less. Using emosocial skills helps prevent against bullying as young people learn to express themselves correctly, handle friendship miscommunications and interact in person, not just through their devices. Second, being emosocially intelligent can help with family communication in the home. Teaching family members how to read their each other and ask for what they need can bring harmony into the home. Lastly, as young people enter adulthood, being able to understand and express their own emotions is essential for their personal development, self-esteem and identity.

How You Can Build and Learn About EmoSocial Skills:

Here are a few articles to get you started on emosocial health for you, your teen or your family:

Emotional Intelligence: This is basic introduction to emotional intelligence for teens, kids and parents. We talk about how parents can teach emotional skills to their students or family.

Social Intelligence: This is basic introduction to social intelligence for teens, kids and parents. We talk about how parents can teach social skills to their kids, middle school and High School students.

How to Tell If Teens Are Lying to You: Lie detection must be, unfortunately an integral part of emosocial intelligence. How can parents learn non-verbal cues to clue them into when their teens are lying.

What Happens in the Brain When Teens Are Bullied? Four different effects bullying has on the teenage brain.

Can We Teach Social Literacy? Social literacy or the ability to read social cues is an important part of emosocial intelligence. How can parents learn and teach kids the important social skills–both how to use them and how to read them? Here we explain.

5 Reasons the Next Generation Might be Socially Illiterate: Why does this generation of young people have more social problems and miscommunications than previous generations? Here, Vanessa explains why the digital age is muddling our emosocial intelligence. Lack of Eye Contact with Young People is another symptom of social illiteracy.

Teen Lie to Me: What is the research behind lying and the brain? How can parents use emosocial intelligence to tell if their teens are lying to them?

How To Read Your Teen’s Face: Reading non-verbal cues in your child or teen is an essential part of communication and emosocial intelligence. Here Vanessa explains the science behind microexpressions and faces and why you need to know this to understand the people around you.

Why We Must Teach Social Skills in School  This article is a call to all of us to begin to think about how social illiteracy is effecting the next generation and how we can counteract the negative effects and build the positive ones.

Self-Talk: The Story We Tell Ourselves, About Ourselves Sometimes, being aware of our own inner-dialogue can be enough to change bad habits into good.

How to Get Your Teen to Say Yes  Drawing from a basic study conducted on lawn signs, learn how starting small can yield big results when it comes to getting your teens to say yes.

10 Secrets to Help Teens Emotionally Grow-Up How to help your teen develop emotional intelligence, and better prepare them for the inevitable highs and lows of high school, college and beyond.

We will continuously post new articles and research about emosocial health on the blog and in the newsletter. You can also check back here for updates.

What Radical Parenting Is Working On:

We are working on teaching emosocial intelligence and researching further implications in two ways:

1) Speaking to Parents and Teenagers

We give presentations to parents and teenagers about social literacy and emotional and social intelligence where we teach basic concepts, social skills and stress the importance of reading each other in school, at home and in the future.

2) Future Research

We are currently working on an extensive research project to test the success of an in school curriculum teaching social literacy to young people. We, as always, will be posting about progress and findings of this research report, but feel free to email in with ideas, questions or if you want to get involved in the process.

3) Science of People: Bite-Size Science

Vanessa also runs a website called The Science of People.org. On this website she shares the latest research on human behavior, relationships and personal development. She gets the most interesting studies from around the world and synthesizes it into bite-sized science, for every day people to use in every day life.