This guest post is by Radical Parenting Intern Editor, Mila Anhielo.
Facebook – A brain child of a Harvard dropout and a website which plays a huge a role in a human being’s life these days. It’s that medium which brings people living 7 seas apart closer. The thing that was believed to be a blessing has turned into a cage, which has captured almost every teenager on earth. It has become like a prison where teens keep writing on each other’s walls and keep poking each other. Amidst all this, everything has started to suffer. Be it their studies, their activities, their mental situation; in a nutshell their LIFE. Parents do have to free their teenagers from this prison. They just have to make them take a break It’s not jus the computer that captures them, their smartphones spoil them the same.
Here are a few ways that can help:
Set a specific time
Your teen might not like this, but set a specific time limit in which they can access Facebook.; or a specific time as in after dinner or after school. And make them stick to it. Give them something when they obey it and punish (not severely) them if they don’t.
Get them interested in something else
Facebook is something people log on to when they are bored. Don’t give a chance to your teens to get bored. If teens are lonely, they will log onto Facebook , but don’t let them feel that way. Keep them busy. Get them involved in different activities.
Changing the settings
This might be something drastic but you could change your browser settings so your teens won’t be able to open Facebook without a password.
Talk to your teen
Talk to your teen about the harm of sitting on Facebook for long. This might stop them from going on Facebook that much. Keep it simple and who knows it might work.
Facebook is one of the biggest booms this century has seen but it is changing into something entirely else. If not stopped hackers and spammers will keep on affecting teens and bullying will be ahead of its game. Teens just have to be on their guard when using Facebook and parents have to do that too.
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Cassie is a 16 – year old from Los Angeles, CA. She enjoys acting, playing guitar and spending time with her younger brothers. Her favorite subject is English because she wants to be a writer.
“What’s on your mind?” reads the blinking bar of the Facebook homepage.
As we continuously type in the answer to this single question and share it with the rest of our online friends, we transform social networking sites into a scrapbook of our daily lives. From sharing a celebratory athletic accomplishment or lyrics to a popular song, teenagers are constantly “updating their statuses” and opening a window to their lives to the growing world of the Internet.
Award-winning movies, such as The Social Network, portray how the fad of Facebook became prevalent in various parts of the world. While some critique the ethics behind this movie as controversial, it is evident that social networking does indeed have a strong impact on today’s youth. We have become obsessed with the Internet and the idea of creating a perfect online profile that would best present ourselves to the world. As technology continues to expand, it becomes even easier for us to share their stories with a simple click of the mouse.
Along with this obsession of self-creating our own image, we use Facebook as their primary way of communication and socializing in the real world. “I’ll Facebook you” and “I’ll Tag you” have been thrown into our daily vocabulary. Photographs of our daily activities are taken and uploaded onto Facebook to share with our friends and family on the web. Individuals can update their Relationship Status and experience the ups and downs of a romantic relationship with the entire Internet watching. Teenagers stay up late at night on Facebook, often procrastinating for a significant amount of homework due in just a few hours.
Arguably, this obsession can sometimes be unhealthy. My friends can be glued to the tiny screens of their cell phones gossiping about the uploaded items on their News Feed. While social networking does indeed seem to be revolutionary, it can also be detrimental. We become so addicted to how we present ourselves to others that we cannot fully live in the moment.
Social Networking enhances the miniscule details of our daily lives. While it may seem as though the self-creation of our own profile is superficial and materialistic, it does brings us teenagers closer together. We provide moral support for each other as we communicate through messages and online chats. We relieve each other’s stress late at night as we comment on funny pictures and reminisce on the most memorable fun moments. We are allowed to communicate with people from around the globe and document the small steps of our everyday on the Internet.
What are my friends up to at this hour? How are my cousins across seas in the Philippines doing? I’ll scroll through my News Feed on Facebook and find the answers to these questions all within in a minute. And I, too, will place my blinking cursor on the rectangular box under the blue Facebook status logo and answer the question, “What’s on your mind?”