Jealousy: More Than An Emotion

envy, insecurity, body issues, self esteem, suicideAs a passionate writer of inspirational fiction, Lydia, a 13-year old teenager, living in Thurston, Ohio, frees her mind in the daily patterns of everyday life.

 

Jealousy is a very deep subject. It’s much more than wanting that cool necklace your friend has or even just wishing you could be a Hollywood star. Jealousy can and has caused insecurity, anorexia, and even suicide. Thing is, most are not aware of the rising population of depressed teens, especially their own parents. Depression can also be a result of jealousy; depression is the result of jealousy…

Firstly, many of us struggle with how we look because of all the “perfect” models we see everyday. My mom always tells me that everyone has different build in the way their bodies look physically, but that does not give you an excuse to be lazy or insecure because you don’t look like the next person. We shouldn’t need to change who we are to get a good critique from the world. Therefore, motivation is the only other thing we need. However, that is also one of the hardest things to gain when you are depressed or feel bad about yourself.

Secondly, the only real beauty is how your heart looks, maybe even how your brain looks. You know, many people think your soul is in your brain, believable right? Depending on your outlook on life, you have a choice to make. You could choose either not to give life a purpose or make what you believe a serious goal, but really, how people look at you does not matter. A good healthy lifestyle holds knowing that you are happy with yourself. I cannot say I am absolutely happy with who I am or who I was 3 years ago, but I do have the peace of mind that I am alive and surviving the rapid changes of the world and being ‘me’. Also, I will learn from my mistakes, knowing that I can be confident with who I am.

In addition, throughout all the pain teens have trying to be satisfied with themselves, parents do not know that they actually have a depressed teen. You, parents, have a big part in your teen’s life and can make a difference. There are probably some things you can think of, causing your child’s depression, but the main thing we teens deal with is jealousy.

Let me define jealousy for you:

Feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages.

Do you know what this means? Can you understand that your teen feels like they are nothing compared to the world’s perfect picture of a human? Probably the biggest, most helpful, thing you could do is just comfort your teen. Not necessarily by hugging them or telling them that you love them (which is also a great option), but by nondescriptly leaving hints about how much of a masterpiece they are. As a girl, I know I love to talk to my mom and many do, problem is, a thick wall is starting to build between the loving relationship of a child and her parents. One of the few things you could do to be helpful towards your child’s depression and jealousy is to give a reason for denying their request. I know it may seem random, but really we do not want to be lied to. We want reasons when we ask, “Can I dye my hair pink? Like that singer!” and you say “No”. Why not? It’s always more satisfying when my parents tell me why I cannot change who I am. Not going to lie, my parent’s opinions is probably the most satisfying compared to anyone I’ve ever met.

So, out of who your teen chooses to be, make sure they know that jealousy is much deeper than what most think it is. I like to think it’s the synonym of hatred or insecurity, but really it’s easier to cure than it is to feel. Some just think it’s hard.

Meet the Teen Youtube Sensation: xxAllieCosmeticsxx!

Daniela is a 16 year old from Miami, Florida. She enjoys helping others and writing.  Her favorite subject is psychology because one day she hopes to major in psychology.

 

For those of you who don’t know, Youtube is a website used for more than just searching song lyrics or music videos to your favorite songs. There are people who actually do Youtube videos for a living. I have been watching Youtube videos since around late 2009.  My favorite Youtuber has to be Allie, or better known “xxAllieCosemeticsxx”.  She is a young 16 year old girl from Montreal, Canada.  She is a Beauty Vlogger on Youtube. She started her channel in 2008 and has been making beauty and fashion videos ever since.  Now, almost three years later she has over 30, 000 subscribers on Youtube.  You might be thinking, “Oh, a makeup and fashion channel? That sounds so vain” But in reality it’s not. Allie always stresses the fact that beauty comes first on the inside.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/user/xXAllieCosmeticsxX#p/u[/youtube]

There’s way more to Allie than just make up and clothing. She has inspired me and over 30,000 other viewers with her dramatic weight loss. As a child, I had always been overweight just like Allie stated that she was in one of her other videos “My Weight Loss Story!”. Then people started to send really mean and hurtful messages about her weight to her on the anonymous question and answer website called “Formspring”. She calls those people her “angels in disguise” because they motivated her to lose weight. According to one of her responses on Tumblr, she has lost over 40 pounds. Allie has always been beautiful but now with the confidence that she has earned from her weight loss, she has blossomed into an even more beautiful individual.

I remember the day I saw that video of hers, I felt like I could relate so much to what she had gone through. It was like finally someone out there finally understood how I felt. That video and many others helped me start my own weight loss journey.  On June 13th, 2011 I decided to get healthy. I worked out at the gym over 5 times a week and I completely changed my diet in order to accommodate my healthier lifestyle. Although, I’m not as successful as Allie I have actually lost a good amount of weight. I can see the difference in how I act and how my clothes fit and I owe a lot of it to Allie’s inspiration. As “cheesy” as it sounds, I felt like if Allie could do it than so could I. I could also relate to Allie’s anxiety issues that she has shared with her subscribers on her channel. I know how it feels to be in that position, and even though she lives thousands of miles from me it’s great to know that someone else has faced those same struggles.

I am subscribed to over 200 Youtube channels, and I could honestly say that Allie has been the biggest inspiration to me. Her videos have made such an impact on my life. She has also inspired me to make Youtube videos. I will be starting my own channel soon and I hope to be as successful as Allie. There is no one else that could ever be classified as my “favorite You tuber”.  I also enjoy other Youtubers that are not beauty related. Good examples would be “TimothyDeLaGhetto2” or Timothy Chantarangsu from Paramount, California who makes comedy videos and “CTFxC” or Charles Trippy and Allie Speed from Bradenton, Florida who make daily “vlogs” talking about their life and sharing their life with the world. Both of those Youtubers have over a million subscribers in total and I look forward to their videos every single day.

The Hate Game

Evangeline is a homeschooler from MalaysiaHer interests are reading, writing, Wikipedia, music, entertainment, and book blogging. She aspires to work in the media communications sector.

We Hate Miley Cyrus And The Jonas Brothers, Asians Hate You Miley Cyrus, Demi Lovato Is Ugly, Justine Bieber, Justin Bieber Hate Club

 

Ever heard of the titles above? Parents, if you are shocked, you shouldn’t be. These titles are just a few of the milder titles I found in the Internet. It doesn’t even count labels given to celebrities outside of the Internet by many teens and tweens. This is what teens and tweens worldwide are up to nowadays. Hating. There are hate Facebook groups targeted at celebrities, hate Twitter accounts, hate YouTube videos targeting celebrities, and hate websites.

 

Parents, if you hear that your kid is bullying another child in school, will you be angry? I bet you would. You might think that labeling and hating celebrities is not bad as it is because it is towards someone your kids have probably never met before. But it is worse than you think it is. This is the world’s next generation – haters.

 

Every time I read or hear my friends hating celebrities, I get angry and disgusted. Why? Because the celebrities these teenagers are hating have not done them anything wrong. I am not a fan of these celebrities but I cannot and probably will never understand what teens and tweens think they are getting out of hating.

 

Parents, I am writing this to you so that you might be aware of it. If your teens and tweens can hate celebrities (whom they have never seen) and spew out such hatred, what makes you think they won’t do the same to their classmates? A group of 4channers (4channers are a community of netizens who have been called “alarming” because of their activities) hijacked Justin Bieber’s website poll asking where he should tour next and they voted ‘North Korea’. There are even more explicit sites where the haters would wish the celebrities dead. An example is the very recent furor surrounding Rebecca Black’s death threats. Rebecca Black is a 13-year old girl who achieved worldwide fame through her single, “Friday”, when it was uploaded into YouTube. Her quick shot to fame (which ironically, was brought about by the negative criticism made about her video) is not as shocking as the comments left at the video page and death threats made towards her. What makes you think they won’t do the same to the unpopular kid in their class?

 

I have thought about this hate issue many times and wondered why is there so much hatred towards celebrities, especially young ones. I asked several friends and others I came across in Facebook about why they hate a certain celebrity and they could not answer my questions when I tried to probe deeper. The reasons they gave me were so shallow, I concluded that there had to be deeper reasons as to why they hate. I thought about it and came up with the following reasons.

 

  1. Jealousy – Teens and tweens are hating young celebrities. Can it be that they are jealous of their success? Can it be that guy haters are jealous that their girl friends are going crazy over the male celebrities? Can it be that the girl haters are jealous that their guy friends think a particular female celebrity is beautiful? Are the haters jealous and envious that these celebrities are receiving plenty of attention. Maybe it’s because they want to be The One – the one receiving the attention.
  2. Peer pressure – While doing research for this topic, I came across a forum thread in which someone asked if she should be hating this particular celebrity. The asker had seen the YouTube videos and Facebook groups and was actually asking if they should hate the celebrity. Are teens and tweens hating celebrities because it is what “the others” are doing? Hating celebrities is the ‘in’ thing now; it is popular. While not all haters are hating because of peer pressure, I am sure there are a few who are. It is easy to feel left out when you are the only one if your group of friends who is not hating.
  3. Idealism – Are the young people nowadays carrying a certain ideal of how a celebrity should behave? When celebrities don’t meet their ideals, they get upset and hate. They expect celebrities to be perfect. The problem is, many of them don’t realize that no one is perfect. Not even the celebrity on stage whom all the fans are screaming at.

 

Cyber harassment and cyberbullying might be strong terms to use on those who made the hate YouTube videos and started the hate groups, but they apply very well. Cyber harassment involves those with adult age while in cyberbullying, the victim and bully are minors. In some states in the United States, cyber harassment is a criminal offense. Various states in the United States have passed legislations against cyberbullying. Parents, while you might think that it is perfectly alright for your child to condemn and hate celebrities, celebrities are humans too and what your child is doing might be a criminal activity.

 

Parents, after all I have said, are you willing to help put to a stop these hate activities? The ball is in your court.

 

Before I end, I want to add a little note to teens and tweens who might be reading this. Put yourselves in the shoes of the celebrities you are hating. Put yourselves in the shoes of Justin Bieber, Miley Cyrus, Demi Lovato and all the other celebrities you all are hating. What if you are them? How will you feel with all the hate mud thrown at you in the Internet and in real life? With the exception of their popularity level, they are no different from you. They are also young people trying to find their way in life. The only thing you will gain from hating them is temporary pleasure at a cost of another fellow human being.

 

 

 

An Unfortunate Event: A Summary and Reflection

Sam is a 16-year-old from Montgomery, NJ. She enjoys playing tennis, writing and Community Service. Her favorite subject in school is History.

I had just returned from Boston after the first weekend in March. I waltzed into my second period English class ready to study Walden. Suddenly, everyone became animated with chirps of “Oh my God!” and “Wow, who does that?”

I was quickly updated: apparently someone had graffitied the back of our town’s high school with a statement expressing, for lack of better words, a distaste towards the very small African American population in our school. In addition to the school, a local Catholic church was also vandalized with anti-religious rhetoric. Clearly, this sent a massive shockwave through my school, especially through the seniors, who had just returned from their Senior Class Trip.

In the few days following, the principal called me down for a conference, along other students, as well as teachers and the vice principals. To begin, he asked us students how we felt about the graffiti. Much to my shock, no one really thought that there was an issue with racism at school, arguing that the prominence of extremely diverse groups of people should be enough evidence to show the unity within the school. On the other hand, I believed that many students at my school, while they may not harbor racist tendencies, didn’t seem to understand that blindly throwing around slurs and stereotypes (specifically, the N-word), regardless of anyone’s intent, could cause much greater harm (as manifested in this crime).

So what could we do? Clearly we needed to show that this vandalism wasn’t representative of our school without using the clichéd assembly or another morning announcement. Eventually, we came to the decision to put up two murals, one outside with handprints and the word “Community” written on it, the other inside with a pledge to act as a unified student body and to show tolerance and acceptance to our fellow students.

The response to the murals were mixed. While some thought that it was a creative idea to combat any modicum of racism going on in school, others felt that the decision was less proactive and more reactive. This argument was strengthened when the police issued a report that they apprehended the perpetrators along with cans of spray paint, implying that another graffiti tagging was planned.

Nonetheless our school is standing by its decision and the first etchings eventually were drawn up the next week. Overall, this sudden incident horrified my small town, yet it not only reinforced the importance of tolerance, but it also united us as a community and reinforced our resilience.